Happy bleeping Saturday off

[Flynn]

So DH has this weekend off and NO INTERVIEWS. Cool. I schedule the family picture I have been putting off for MONTHS, get a ton of breakfast food on a FRIDAY EVENING at the grocery store (with two kids in tow) for Saturday morning and.....

...the R4 is on call which means if there is a transplant, the fellow (my DH) gets called in. There RARELY is a transplant when the R4 is on call. GUESS WHAT HAPPENED????!!!!!

The pisser in my book is NOT that we have to reschedule the family picture and NOT that I have to explain to my three year old "I know I said Daddy would be home but..." the real pisser is that this time he is supposed to be "off" goes into never never land. He doesn't get a half day on Monday and NOTHING IS DONE TO RECOGNIZE HIM GETTING SCREWED ON HIS WEEKEND OFF. It just goes away. It's just, "bummer there was a transplant on your weekend off." Actually, other than the attending who is doing the transplant, I bet the other attending won't even KNOW there was a transplant BECAUSE HE WON'T ASK. Why should he? He is this big important doc who has things to do and he's a mover and a shaker.

BUMMER?????? (don't go postal don't go postal don't go postal)

DH is being very cool about the whole thing so it is easy to direct my anger towards the system and not him. So I've got that going for me.

The transplant person called at 5:00 a.m. with this blissful news. DH had to go in at 9 -- hopefully to be back before my kids go to bed. Hopefully. I'm not going to hold my breath.

So, happy FREAKIN Saturday. Training sucks. The residency system sucks. Direct all middle fingers towards the Northwest please. thanks in advance.

[Sheherezade]

I'm so sorry. That just sucks the big one.

Can you make it up to yourself by doing something really super fun with the kids without DH? Like ..... putting up the tree or going out and tagging one to cut down tomorrow (if you do that)? I know for me putting life on hold everytime a surprise medical emergency happened was hugely frustrating. Just go ahead and do something without him. (I know it's always without him and that's the point. It is better to hit a movie, go out to a local restaurant, even do some Christmas shopping and wrapping than to just stay home and stew.....)

It sucks. I hope your karma turns around. You deserve some good luck!

[Amiens]

That sucks!!! I can feel your pain, and we are done. Matt agreed to take one of the partner's 2nd call. The 2nd call person never has to go in, hahaha.... Except today- there are 2 heart cases which could have been scheduled yesterday, and one of the surgeons pitched a hissy fit about not have a room available to him for emergency surgeries (he scheduled 3 today)- Matt's comment on that was well if they are emergent then they should be done on Friday.

I hope karma rears it's head and the attending gets shafted some how. But coming from the same university system you did, we both know the likelihood of that one.

You are more woman than I! Keep chanting--- "Only 7 more months only 7 more months."

Crystal

I just double flipped off and mooned em for ya.

[Flynn]

Thanks guys. Your responses make me laugh.

I braved the morning by picking up our computer from the shop but the key was my dad came too -- so we then headed over to a bookstore after my lame errand and I got a bit of shopping done while Grandpa watched the kids run all over the place! I think he needs a nap now!

Now it's nap time for the kids and I am watching college basketball -- so life is good.

Rumor has it that there is a job at this program where transplants would be a component. I'm not saying my DH is a shoe in for the job but he has been asked to sit down and talk with the attending about it.

Today has given me a stronger resolve to say (all together now) take this job and shove it! Moving will be sad and very difficult BUT we never have to deal with this program again and that is just WAY TOO TEMPTING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I am taking the advice of this wonderful site and planning my evening in order to look forward to later. I am going to get a movie after naptime, then after the kids are in bed I am going to take a short bubble bath with a glass of wine and then watch the movie.

Does anyone else here feel like the little engine that could?
I think I can I think I can I think I can.....

:@

That stinks! And you're right, it would stink a little bit less if he got that day back sometime soon.



Two middle fingers vigorously pointed northward!

Take this job and shove it,
I ain't workin' here no more.
My woman done left,
An' took all the reasons I was workin' for.
You better not to try to stand in my way,
As I'm a walkin' out the door.
Take this job and shove it,
I ain't workin' here no more.

[Vishenka69]

I am going to take a short bubble bath with a glass of wine and then watch the movie.

This sounds so nice and relaxing. There's nothing like some "me downtime." Sorry your weekend got ruined. This reminds me of last vacation when we left on his post-call day and the entire ride to the airport and flight to Costa Rica he was reminding me that he could have been back in the hospital scrubbed in on a "Really Cool Case." Sorry, I dragged your ass on vacation honey, won't happen again.

[Phoebe]

I hope the rest of your day and weekend went smoothly!

[houseelf]

Sorry, I dragged your ass on vacation honey, won't happen again.

Flynn, I would have had the family portrait made without DH. I actually did this one time when DH got called in for god-knows-what before baby #2 came. Actually, this photo shoot turned out to be a great shot of me and my son which I will always cherish.

Besides, I think the family portrait sans the physician is a realistic one, no?

Kelly

A little hijack...sorry...but does anyone else's kids draw the family portrait without the medical parent? In the last year, my daughter started putting dad in the picture. I wouldn't say that he is in the inner circle just yet, but he is on the same page which is a start.

[houseelf]

Actually, um, yes. DS drew a family portrait with Dad on the outside of the family where he and I are holding hands and the baby is on my otherside. Dad is a small figure in the distance and I am the tallest, most prominent figure. (IRL I am 5'2" and DH is 6'0").

This could be just a random dipiction or this could be a a glimpse into his inner psyche. I don't want to analyze this too much or I might just cry.

Kelly

Yup -- DH is off in the distance. Sometimes the dog is part of the small group and he is still....off in the distance. But he's on the paper -- that's a start!

[Vanquisher]

It defnitely sucks. I hope you get some time off together, for real, soon.

[Flynn]

Thanks guys...DH got home before dinner which was a great surprise. It turns out the lungs for harvest were not good afterall.

So, we had a fun rest of the day but the family of the transplant candidate did NOT have a good day. This life is SO unbalanced. I was happy he was home but sad for that family.

Wacky wacky wacky.