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So, DH is q2 call this week. He had last week off for the hoiday, so we figured that this week would be really hard. Last week was so nice! His parents scheduled themselves a trip to come in to see us starting Christmas night and ending this morning when I had to wake my two sleeping children up at 4 a.m. to drag them to the airport. I was thinking that dh was ging to be here all of a couple hours for their entire visit. I was prepared. Well, it happened that because of the holiday week, there are very, very few scheduled surgeries and really light clinics. Not to mention, the hospital was on trauma divert for much of their stay due to lack of appropriate neurosurgery coverage. (The neurosurg group here just split up and they have locum tenens covering, but there were gaps). This all combined in an effort to make my dh home quite a bit over the time his parents were here. So, while I am glad he was here to help me deal with them for more than I thought, I am miffed that they never see how it actually is for us all the time. As much as I wanted dh there, part of me wanted the pity party too. "Wow, he is gone a lot!" You know? I mean, after all, I still have to listen to his parents interject the best way for us to live in nearly all aspects of our lives, where we want to live, our priorities, etc., I should at least get a little legit pity party. So, am I twisted for having wished dh was gone a little bit more so that they could have seen our reality?
So, dh's number one priority for his job post training is schedule. He wants to be part of the family again. Point blank. FIL starts telling us that dh can't have that as his number one priority because employers will sniff it out of him and he'll never be hired. First of all, he knows shit about medicine. He thinks he knows everything, but he doesn't. Second, I don't like the insinuation that dh is such an idiot that he will blow job interviews by telling them he never wants to work. He isn't an idiot. I had to say this to FIL. He isn't an idiot. He kisses high-up doctor's ass all day. He knows the game. We just want our freaking family life back you pompous ass! He would rather work a 60 hour week and see his kids then continue working for 100+ hours for the rest of his life, you workaholic SOB!
Rant done. They are gone. Begin decompression.
So, dh's number one priority for his job post training is schedule. He wants to be part of the family again. Point blank. FIL starts telling us that dh can't have that as his number one priority because employers will sniff it out of him and he'll never be hired. First of all, he knows shit about medicine. He thinks he knows everything, but he doesn't. Second, I don't like the insinuation that dh is such an idiot that he will blow job interviews by telling them he never wants to work. He isn't an idiot. I had to say this to FIL. He isn't an idiot. He kisses high-up doctor's ass all day. He knows the game. We just want our freaking family life back you pompous ass! He would rather work a 60 hour week and see his kids then continue working for 100+ hours for the rest of his life, you workaholic SOB!
Rant done. They are gone. Begin decompression.
She just didn't get it, that there will always be missed birthdays, anniversaries. If we want to do something together as a family, we still have to plan far in advance. It's not like with my FIL he makes his own schedule or has set days off.
I love them to death but they just drive me up the wall.
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