Couples Counseling

He was a trooper and got a quad americano.

Quad. Love, true love.

[Flynn]

Gotta love Starbucks -- and the fact that where I live there is one every other corner!!!

couples counseling

wow! this really sounds like something i could get in to! i am definitely going to check into this. i wish i knew of someone to ask. none of you might happen to be in the indianapolis or st. louis area would you who could recommend people to contact? i know i am just full of questions.... but, how did you know any of you when despite this lifestyle you wanted to marry your SO?

SO is Q5 right now and his rotations get better as the weather gets warmer, so we agreed that this was the time to start. He NEVER would have made it to a single appointment over the winter months.
As for how I went about finding our therapist... a coworker recommended somebody she and her husband used. Had she not done that, I would have just gone through SO's insurance company, or asked my therapist for a recommendation.
I know SO and I will make it because the things that get in our way are circumstantial and temporary and we're both committed to working through them. We're really good together and love one another in a way that inspires songs and sonnets.

[houseelf]

Most programs have a counseling program as part of their benefits. I've heard that 75% of the residents here use it at some point or another. We got 5 FREE sessions and DH did it post call. He had to tell his chief one time who was completely understanding because he had to do the same with his wife a few years earlier. You'd be surprised at the percentage of people who struggle.

Kelly

[Flynn]

Kelly Wrote:

You'd be surprised at the percentage of people who struggle.

This is my experience as well.

[Vishenka69]

but, how did you know any of you when despite this lifestyle you wanted to marry your SO?

I knew that I wanted to marry DH two weeks into dating him. I also know that any marriage requires work and that I rather work at being married to my soul mate than be single.

As for struggling and marriage counseling, we obviously struggled and still do at times but never actually went through counseling. Talked to some friends who were going through similar issues, which helped. At some point I got a number for a counselor but that alone freaked out DH enough to have a serious conversation and compromise and change. I've also realized that our worse times are when we feel misreable at work (for whatever reason) because we tend to take it out on each other. As long as we're both content, our relationship is great. It takes time and sometimes years to work out all the kinks and find a rythm that works for both.

[Phoebe]

We have tried couples counseling two different times. The first time we went through EAP which was free. The last time we got a lemon for a counselor so I do my research more thoroughly now. Making appts that DH can attend is difficult. I decided to go on my own and it seems to be working out better.

Jennifer

We go every other week together, and the weeks in between, we each see our individual counselors. That will change once he's on a floor rotation, but during electives it's an easy schedule to keep up with.