My partner is a new resident, and from what I read in the forums here and what I got from our previous medical spouse group in med school, it seems like the main strategy for getting through residency is getting by as best you can -- grin and bear it.
Is there any other way? It just seems like a loss of time and energy to see the next three years as tolerating and making do under such difficult circumstances, of living only for the light at the end of the tunnel.
My partner is stressed, and we are alone in our new city. We have no family or friends here. I am only here part-time -- 2 weeks here, then 2 weeks in NC b/c I'm in graduate school there. My way of dealing during med school was to become codependent (way too much giving and helping and refusing to receive), which I recently came to realize and am working on resolving. How do you get through residency (1) without only giving and not receiving and (2) when you are so busy yourself? It seems the conditions are ripe for giving and not receiving, especially since one's spouse can barely take care of her/himself.
Thanks.
Michellle
Is there any other way? It just seems like a loss of time and energy to see the next three years as tolerating and making do under such difficult circumstances, of living only for the light at the end of the tunnel.
My partner is stressed, and we are alone in our new city. We have no family or friends here. I am only here part-time -- 2 weeks here, then 2 weeks in NC b/c I'm in graduate school there. My way of dealing during med school was to become codependent (way too much giving and helping and refusing to receive), which I recently came to realize and am working on resolving. How do you get through residency (1) without only giving and not receiving and (2) when you are so busy yourself? It seems the conditions are ripe for giving and not receiving, especially since one's spouse can barely take care of her/himself.
Thanks.
Michellle
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