Birthday's, are they a big deal?

[SuzySunshine]

I've given up on birthdays for myself but I'm going to make them a big deal for my children. I have a summer birthday which as a kid sucks because you never get to celebrate as a kid with your friends. Our anniversary is July, my birthday is August and DH's birthday is September. This year I'm not going to say a word, not remind him, not bug him, and if he forgets then he can feel bad about it because I'm tired of him not remembering. As far as other people, friends, etc. I don't expect many to remember. I get a card from each sister and a gift from my parents and the ILs which is nice. Every once in a while I'll get a card from a friend but DH remembering is the one that is most important to me. Maybe in 5 years!

[Auspicious]

I confess that this year I forgot my husband's birthday. And so did he. I had asked him about a week beforehand what he wanted to do for his birthday, and he was going to think about it.

It was June 5, and I had just quit my job and we were kicking into high gear for packing and moving. We got up that morning, were chatting and everything, I got to work packing boxes, he was backing up computer files or something.

About 1:00 in the afternoon I hear very loud laughing coming from the bedroom. I go in there, "What's going on-- Oh, are you on the phone?" He says "Yes, it's my sister, calling to wish me a happy birthday!" I started llaughing, too. And his sister thought we were nuts.

We decided we'd better go out for dinner.

In general we have a hard time coordinating our funnest times with specific dates on the calendar. Like we'll have many perfect romantic evenings during the course of a year, but none of them will happen to fall on our anniversary, know what I mean? We're bad at it. Current philosophy is that as long as we're keeping up the fun and love on a regular basis, we're not going to sweat the red-letter days too much.