So a few things that have come into my mind today based on posts and going on's:

Family/Friends asking for DH's opinion...
Our family is great about not asking unless it is very specialty specific. Of course that could be b/c my DH's uncle is a doctor, my FIL is a pharmacist, my sister is a nurse and my other sister is an RT. Of my dad's four sisters, three are RN's and so are several of my female cousins on that side as is my dad's mom. With all that said, they did ask for DH's opinion at Chistmas. My grandfather (dad's dad) has been deteriorating the last few years and in the last few months the siblings that see him often had seen a noticeable decline. So DH was tasked with giving grandpa a neurological exam without really giving him one. Grandma had cancelled an appointment he had scheduled with a neurologist and everyone thinks it is because she is afraid he's slipping away. So DH talked to her and talked to him without being to probing and without being to doctor-ly. He was able to say that he did think Grandpa had a slight stroke but that it was a deep stroke and there shouldn't be any further deterioration. Things like that he doesn't mind doing, he gives my other grandmother the same type of information about her husband who also has alzheimer's. I'm very proud of DH when he can use his gift to help family and I think he feels like all of his education makes a difference with our family.

Parenting Thread...
Now I know this is going to be an unpopular opinion. You all know I love this site, you all know more about me then some of my "closest" friends. But I have to side with sms92 on this topic. I have poured my heart and soul out in this blog about the infertility treatments that I have been through. I have stated in the Oprah thread how NO ONE should be told to relax regardless of what you know about them or don't know about them. I belonged to another online community once and there was a big blow up between those with children and those who weren't currently able to have children because of comments that were made like "you'll understand when you're a parent". Take this for what it's worth, chalk it up to a horomonal infertile person venting, learn something from it or ignore it, but here it is. Asking someone about the child bearing plans, telling someone its their turn, prodding more than the friendly question and telling someone they'll understand when they have kids hurt just the same to someone that wasn't so badly to have their own kids but can't. I realize we can't go around walking on egg shells, you have every right to ask someone you meet "do you have any kids" but when they say no - drop it. When someone offers parenting advice that you don't know that well don't say "you'll understand when you have kids". How do you know that person didn't lose a child at a young age? You don't! How do you know that person can't have children and are still grappling with that truth? You don't! If going through all of this has taught me one thing its that you don't know what another person is going through - you might think you do, but you probably don't. Think before you speak (or type).

Medical Spouse Bible Study
So I didn't know there is a national organization with local chapters at medical schools and residency locations. I knew Mayo had Friday morning session held at a local church here but thanks to a friend that attends that one (mostly SAHM's) I'm now attending the evening session. Most of them work, a few have kids but still work or choose to go to the evening session because that is where they started. They're all very nice people and tonight was my first session. I've never truly participated in a bible study, I'll openly admit I joined b/c I feel guilty for not going to church enough and I thought it would be a good way to meet frends, but I look forward to continuing and I look forward to our evening at Color Me Mine on Thursday - should be fun.