I have decided that since we are entering a new phase of our lives/career that I should start journaling here. I do have a blog, but I find that no one wants to hear me complain about how tough this life really is, so I'll come here to complain! I have had this issue before but the further along dh goes in his training the worse it gets. People don't want to hear the wife of a doctor (in training) complain about how hard it is.
I am going to be honest, I used to be one of those people. I never grew up around medicine and when my husband first decided (when he was 4!) that he wanted to be a doctor I was supportive and excited. The wife of a doctor... how exciting! And here is where the trouble began...
Yes, we will have a good life, I will not have to work, but not for a while. It is well respected, this is true, but the training... we get to buy our first home together. But at 27 this will be the first year that we have two incomes. And let me tell you- it ain't much! We have to put off starting a family until he can apply to moonlight because I don't know how else we would do it. This is hard for me, I know, I'm young, but I have been ready for the last year and when everyone around you has children and you're constantly being asked when you're next, and what a great mom you'll be, it's hard. And now that we're both "ready", financially we are not, which is very frustrating. What do you do? How do you deal with this? I get angry, angry at people who tell me how lucky I am because my husband will be a doctor. Then I tell them how much debt we have, how long it takes and how much he is making the next 4 years, hardly a posh lifestyle.
But yes, I am lucky, we have a wonderful life and are lucky to have this career and guaranteed income in years to come. But it is hard and if I hear delayed gratification one more time...ahhhhhh! I am glad to have med school done with, I am ready to settle down, have a home and start a family. Something that everyone else has been doing for the last couple years, I believe they call that delayed gratification!
We have known for a week where we are going for residency and I can not believe the wonderful people who have been so helpful already! Thanks to Cheri and her referrals! This is hard process but I already feel so welcomed into the community and can't wait to get there and settle in. I am grateful for staying close to home and at our first choice!
So here begins a new chapter... residency! Here goes nothing!
I am going to be honest, I used to be one of those people. I never grew up around medicine and when my husband first decided (when he was 4!) that he wanted to be a doctor I was supportive and excited. The wife of a doctor... how exciting! And here is where the trouble began...
Yes, we will have a good life, I will not have to work, but not for a while. It is well respected, this is true, but the training... we get to buy our first home together. But at 27 this will be the first year that we have two incomes. And let me tell you- it ain't much! We have to put off starting a family until he can apply to moonlight because I don't know how else we would do it. This is hard for me, I know, I'm young, but I have been ready for the last year and when everyone around you has children and you're constantly being asked when you're next, and what a great mom you'll be, it's hard. And now that we're both "ready", financially we are not, which is very frustrating. What do you do? How do you deal with this? I get angry, angry at people who tell me how lucky I am because my husband will be a doctor. Then I tell them how much debt we have, how long it takes and how much he is making the next 4 years, hardly a posh lifestyle.
But yes, I am lucky, we have a wonderful life and are lucky to have this career and guaranteed income in years to come. But it is hard and if I hear delayed gratification one more time...ahhhhhh! I am glad to have med school done with, I am ready to settle down, have a home and start a family. Something that everyone else has been doing for the last couple years, I believe they call that delayed gratification!
We have known for a week where we are going for residency and I can not believe the wonderful people who have been so helpful already! Thanks to Cheri and her referrals! This is hard process but I already feel so welcomed into the community and can't wait to get there and settle in. I am grateful for staying close to home and at our first choice!
So here begins a new chapter... residency! Here goes nothing!
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