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Hi Amy!

I just wanted to let you know that I did cloth diapers for a couple of weeks, yet I didn't pay that much money for them. We were cheapos!!! Someone bought us Gerber cloth diapers and diaper pins. We bought diaper liners and washed everyday. But like Kristen and Janet, we quickly switched to disposable because we thought with as much as I was washing the diapers it would be the same cost if not cheaper to get disposable diapers. We would go to Sam's Club and buy them in bulk. I believe the brand name was Smiles or something. That's what we did!

Amy, also, people don't know what to say to us when we experienced infertility. I only talked about it with people like me who had infertility problems. My family too didn't understand what it's like to be infertile and they would tell me just to be happy with Wesley who was a miracle child, unplanned, yet I only ovulated like twice a year. I just hit a good ovulating day, I guess. I know how difficult it is to talk about infertility with family and friends who are fertile and, honestly, I am here for if and when you need me. I also understand about wanting to have a biological birth. I am the exact same way. Go through all your options first and don't get overwhelmed, but if you do, please talk with someone to encourage you!

Smiles,
Christy

Amy, it is amazing what some people say! I'm not surprised at all that family is coming out of the woodwork and telling you to adopt. Adopting is wonderful, but I understand your dream to have a baby with your husband. It was/is our dream too!

When I was 9 weeks pregnant, I had a "threatened miscarrige", meaning I was bleeding and in danger of miscarrying. At that point, an early ultrasound revealed two little darling twins nestled side by side, instead of the one baby we were hoping for. On top if it, they told us they might not be "normal" (monoamniotic, with 60% chance of dying before delivery from strangulation--unique to 1% of identical twin pregnancies). My father (bless him and his limitations, he has a head injury) is "challenged" in tougher emotional situations like this. He told me that I should have an abortion and start over. I know he would never have said that before his accident, but it was coming from his deep love and concern for me. He was, simply put, afraid. He saw me being overwhelmed and upset (fearing a miscarriage and fearing an abnormal pregnancy all at once jumbled my emotioins). So, his goal as a protective parent was to stop my pain. I know my example is extreme, but I think it clearly illustrates that he was just trying to stop his child's pain. Perhaps that is where the comments from your family are coming from. They just want to stop you and your husband from hurting. They mean well, I am sure!!! It doesn't end up helping, I know, but the comments stem from their love for you and your husband. Maybe just say to them "thanks for caring, but we'll be OK whatever we do". Maybe that will stop the onslaught from the peanut gallery!

About the Toni Weschler book. I was floored how little I knew about ovulation. Unreal!!! This book was worth it's weight in gold to me.

Amy,

We had three while my husband was a resident...It is doable...although I would probably add that although life doesn't stop, it definately becomes more colorful.

I had to chuckle at the cloth diapers thing. I had decided when I was pregnant with Andrew to do clothies...and we bought a ton of those cloth diapers that look like real diapers....We bought them in all different sizes on a visit to the US (we were living in Germany at the time) and we used them exactly 3 days.....It was just too gross and way too time consuming for me to do the wash all of the time....Oh well!!

Best of luck with the treatments...wow, they sure are expensive!!! A good friend of mine in the UK had fertility treatments for over a year and the NHS paid for them...Will Kaiser cover any of the costs?

Kris

Kristen and Janet i just want to thank you for the very kind words.They mean more then you know.I'm sitting here crying write now beacuse it's brought all my memories back.I thought i was over this but i guess not.Some days it seems like forever since walter died and days like today it just seems like yesterday.I guess my wound must still have a pretty thin scab...instead of a scar.People have told me this feeling never goes away...i guess they were right.I hate being this upset and crying and have NO control at all over it,but maybe if anyone else goes thru this they will remember me...and 5years later the tears still fall.Maybe i shouldn't be in this topic right now as i had no idea i'd get like this.Then again maybe i just still me to cry.
I only wrote this cause i wanted to say something to amy that i thought was important.If you mite lose your insurance maybe you better check before you start all this to make sure you'll have something to cover the pregnancy.Gotta go blow my nose now....
Lynn

I am sorry this topic has been difficult for you. I hope you are having a better day today. As far as my insurance goes, I am not losing it- Kaiser has been bought out by another company and we are being switched. but you never know, maybe they'll have even better benefits! I went out today and bought the Taking Charge of Your Fertility book - looks like a boring read but one I should invest some time into! ~Amy

How is everything going for you? Any new news about your IF situation? I've been thinking about you.

Christy

I don't have a whole lot of new info... went to my SECOND infertility work-up yesterday. Found out I have polycystic ovaries (little cysts on the ovaries) and I went in today to have more bloodwork done. So this means I have 2 strikes against me - 1) the ovary situation 2) the sperm situation. (husband's sperm count is not very good) The next step is an HSG - don't know exactly what that stands for off the top of my head but it means I will go to the hospital and they will shoot die through my tubes to see if everything is open. Believe it or not, I will have this done in the next week - it is scheduled according to where you are in your cycle and I guess the perfect time is in the next few days. SO... I think I have a long road ahead. I called a friend of mine today who delivered her twins yesterday, after conceiving through IVF, and she said as soon as she heard the first baby cry for the first time she knew it was worth all of the things she had gone through. I need to keep having faith but now I an thinking "well, she is a better person then me and that is why she is so blessed..." I guess all of these feelings are natural. We'll see where this road leads but thanks, anyway, for asking ~ Amy

Hi Amy!!!!!!!!!!





I haven't even read your whole response yet, but I am excited to tell you that I have PCOS which is Polycystic Ovaries Syndrome and have gobs of info for you!!!! If you have PCOS, then there is a lot to help you in terms of getting pregnant. Hang in there! I'll read the rest of your post now! I will help you in any way I can. I spent a lot of time acquiring info on this disease and will share with you.



Smiles,

Christy

Mom to Wesley and Jonah (conceived from Clomid 150mg)

HSG stands for Hysterosalpingogram and this is a typical next step for your infertility workup. Are you going to an Ob/Gyn or a RE? I started with an Ob/Gyn, but then switched over to a RE and felt it made a big difference for me. Just something to consider if you are going to an Ob/Gyn now.



Hey, here's my PCOS pages if you would like to visit. My story's on there if your wanting to read it and know that all the emotions you go through are sooo normal. Don't give up though. I through times where I thought God was punishing me and didn't want me to have the family that I always dreamt about growing up. But know He knows your heart and the answers are coming... I will be praying for you and please, if you need to vent or a shoulder to cry on or anything, I am here for you! Again, don't give up!



Here's my PCOS pages:



http://www.geocities.com/bcphare...page1.html



Thinking of You,

Christy

I am so happy to see all of the information in your website I almost starting crying! Thank you! I can't read it right now because my husband is STUDYING and I have to give the computer back up to him but I will come home from work a little early tomorrow and head straight to the computer. I am having my HSG on Tuesday at 2:00. I am having a little pity party because I have to go all by my self, but I think I will make it. My doctor is an infertility specialist and I feel happy with his approach. The doc I am seeing now is my second infertility work-up in a month but I like him because he is finding all of the facts and in three weeks is going to sit down with Eric and I together (hopefully, school permitting or I'll just have to video tape the appointment) and discuss the treatment options. The first doctor I went to was a woman who seemed very confident but rushed and I felt she had a plan for me before I walked in the door and hopefully her "plan" she puts women on will fit every situation. Anyway - thankyou, thankyou, thankyou to all of you wonderful people out there who compile information for uneducated people like me. I'll check it out tomorrow! ~Amy

Christy,



What an AWESOME site. You have a real talent online/creating information to share. I am really impressed.



Kristen

I have to concur - Christy, you are a great researcher and have made an easily navigatable site!

[Lisa]

Wow, Christy! I'm impressed! I didn't even know that you had that site! I'm so thankful that your knowledge can help others in this situation.