Well, I think that it is hard to generalize financial situations, and even how "poor" someone is because everyone's financial situation is different. I didn't mean to step on any toes and imply that a mom working was a bad thing....what I meant was how much more stressful it is for children and MOM when dad is working 100 hours a week and mom is having to juggle career, childcare, children's emotional needs, homework, dad's exhaustion and frustrations with residency, home repairs, landlord problems, packing for another move, etc on her own while having to perform at a job. I've done both by the way, and I'd say that the time that I was working I was a scraggled mess because the stress was so great...I literally packed for this last move by opening up boxes and just throwing stuff in...I just didn't have the time or emotional energy...we actually sent our dirty laundry in the playpen and I didn't give a poop anymore because I was so exhausted.
I think everyone's financial situation is unique. Ours is diff. because we had absolutely no help from our families (many people don't)...we never had help with a plane ticket for interviews or to go and visit a relative, for preschool, etc....occasionally my mom would send us some clothes for the kids, which was an awesome help, but really that was it. We made two international moves and two moves in the US. We paid out of pocket for all moving expenses during residency as well as all interviews...and don't forget the state licensing fees, thousand dollar board exam fees, etc etc etc..
We are out of residency now, but our debt load is literally three times our take-home salary....we pay 40% tax! (MN has a state tax). Consider the payments on nearly $200K in school loans and moving expenses....they are twice our mortgage!!!!! We aren't living it large...we have one pretty used car that we share and most of our rooms in our house are empty (and if we hadn't bought the house we would have owed the IRS an extra $4000 this year )...we have no money for luxuries at all, like...a babysitter on Friday night! It is a lot of sacrifice after medical school and 7.5 years of residency..and it is true that some people never earn more...but they likely didn't go through the rigors of medical training and sacrifice time with their families, etc etc...Doesn't hard work deserve a pay off? Is there someone here that doesn't hope to live in a nice home and drive a minivan someday? OK...it doesn't have to be a minivan...but you know what I mean. My husband didn't go into medicine for the money..and trust me, it isn't there, but it would be nice not to have to fight about buying diapers or gas for the car.
But...it was our choice to have children during residency....so we're responsible.
I'm sure suffering is a relative term, and $32K does sound like a lot of money IF you don't have $200,000 in loans to pay off. Heck, 100K sounds like a lot of money until you realize how much you're paying in taxes and loan payments...We have friends who are professionals who aren't physicians who've been able to put away money in their 401K plans, set some money aside for their children's education and their own retirement....and we aren't in that position yet. We make our loan payment, our house payment, our car payment, electricity, phone and we are about broke. Buying groceries is a very interesting experience ...that will change as we continue to pay down our debt and we do have the hope of a better salary...but salaries have sunk over the last several years. We currently have no retirement, minimal life insurance for Thomas only, and no savings for our children's education or any other emergency costs...
Just another perspective...please, please, please don't hate me for my views!!! I totally respect the different perspectives!
OH...here is an interesting salary site...
www.studentdoc.com/july_surv.html
Kris
Time is a Dressmaker, Specializing in Alterations!Edited by: kmmath at: 2/6/02 3:06:56 pm
I think everyone's financial situation is unique. Ours is diff. because we had absolutely no help from our families (many people don't)...we never had help with a plane ticket for interviews or to go and visit a relative, for preschool, etc....occasionally my mom would send us some clothes for the kids, which was an awesome help, but really that was it. We made two international moves and two moves in the US. We paid out of pocket for all moving expenses during residency as well as all interviews...and don't forget the state licensing fees, thousand dollar board exam fees, etc etc etc..
We are out of residency now, but our debt load is literally three times our take-home salary....we pay 40% tax! (MN has a state tax). Consider the payments on nearly $200K in school loans and moving expenses....they are twice our mortgage!!!!! We aren't living it large...we have one pretty used car that we share and most of our rooms in our house are empty (and if we hadn't bought the house we would have owed the IRS an extra $4000 this year )...we have no money for luxuries at all, like...a babysitter on Friday night! It is a lot of sacrifice after medical school and 7.5 years of residency..and it is true that some people never earn more...but they likely didn't go through the rigors of medical training and sacrifice time with their families, etc etc...Doesn't hard work deserve a pay off? Is there someone here that doesn't hope to live in a nice home and drive a minivan someday? OK...it doesn't have to be a minivan...but you know what I mean. My husband didn't go into medicine for the money..and trust me, it isn't there, but it would be nice not to have to fight about buying diapers or gas for the car.
But...it was our choice to have children during residency....so we're responsible.
I'm sure suffering is a relative term, and $32K does sound like a lot of money IF you don't have $200,000 in loans to pay off. Heck, 100K sounds like a lot of money until you realize how much you're paying in taxes and loan payments...We have friends who are professionals who aren't physicians who've been able to put away money in their 401K plans, set some money aside for their children's education and their own retirement....and we aren't in that position yet. We make our loan payment, our house payment, our car payment, electricity, phone and we are about broke. Buying groceries is a very interesting experience ...that will change as we continue to pay down our debt and we do have the hope of a better salary...but salaries have sunk over the last several years. We currently have no retirement, minimal life insurance for Thomas only, and no savings for our children's education or any other emergency costs...
Just another perspective...please, please, please don't hate me for my views!!! I totally respect the different perspectives!
OH...here is an interesting salary site...
www.studentdoc.com/july_surv.html
Kris
Time is a Dressmaker, Specializing in Alterations!Edited by: kmmath at: 2/6/02 3:06:56 pm
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