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You all will notice that the former posts have all been deleted. As the forum moderator, I have to delete any inflammatory posts that attack others.

Kristen

Ah! I see, if anyone disagrees with your opinion, they are considered inflammatory. I will keep that in mind. I guess no one could actually intelligently come up with a response to my arguments. I guess it doesn't pay for me to actually be articulate.

As forum moderator I hope that in the future you will also protect me from things that I view as offensive, including any opinions that I find antithetical to my "lifestyle".

[Lisa]

Maybe it would be helpful if a forum could be set up for people of faith where their life issues can be discussed in the context of their lifestyle and religion where a password would need to be entered in order to have access to that forum such as was done with the G/L forum. It would allow people of religion (for lack of a better word) to discuss day-to-day issues without feeling that they have to defend their views, while preventing people who believe otherwise from being offended. A password would allow religious conversations to remain private (such as was done with the G/L forum). I feel that such a forum is warranted and only fair since this same benefit was afforded to people of the G/L lifestyle here.

Just an idea.

You just need to learn a little tact. I don't care about whether you're 'pc' or not, just whether you're willing to discuss rather than fling your opinions at everyone and call anyone who calls your aggressive style of expression 'politically correct.' Try listening now and then and don't take it all so personally. Everyone else here is concerned with accepting that others have different views - do you take that concept into consideration when you compose your flames? Just try a little bit of christian compassion next time.
Kaaren

Basically, you would choose the name and password. As to the job of the moderator...I think that basically one just has to make sure things don't get out of hand....it is up to you though actually to make the forum the way that you envision it to be. If you will email me with your forum name and password, I will set it up and let you go at it.

Kris

[Lisa]

If it's OK, I would like to get other peoples' ideas about this before I decide whether I want to moderate the board or not. If anyone feels uncomfortable posting opinions here, they can e-mail me at househog@bellsouth.net.

Thanks.

I understand..being the moderator can put you in an unpopular position ...let me know if you change your mind.

My god....what is this board turning into??I've never heard of anything so narrow minded as to start a board on religion and then say you need a password to get in and read the posts and post!!!!!!This is the kind of thing the KKK or other *private organizations would do.This is supose to be an open forum for medical spouses.We can't have a locked board for this religion or that,blacks and whites,gays and straights,and so on.You get the point.The gay board was not locked..or password only.If we WANTED to post there we could...and I did.To have a password only religion board defeats the purpose of this whole site.I think if people who live by their religion only want a closed site they should find a website for that religion where they can chat with people who feel the same as them or e-mail others who think like them.Kristen i don't blame you one bit for feeling offended because i also have not heard people talk that way for at least 20years!!I wouldn't want to be associated with such a site either and i'd have done just what you did!I'm just so appalled because i thought this country had come farther then that and i just can't believe some of the things my eyes have just read!!!
Lynn

To suggest that someone is narrow-minded, to me, is offensive. I believe all forums should be open to all people on this forum. Some just read the posts, like me, and others respond when they want or fell the need to. I think our concern should be of other people's feelings. We are supposed to be here for support as Kristen has mentioned, not judge others by their beliefs or lifestyles. However, I also believe we are entitled to believe what we will and state our position on issues without personally attacking another group member. Please be tactful in what you say.

What I'm getting at is be thoughtful of others. We are not all going to agree, but we can share our experiences and thoughts about issues without pointing the finger and saying you're bad because you don't believe the way I do. We're all accountable for our actions and we're all old enough to know what is right and wrong, and let's just leave it at that.

If you don't have anything nice to say to another, then don't say it at all. We can discuss without attacking others...or, at least, we can give it a try.

Okay, that's enough out of me. I think I've said enough considering I started the whole Dr. Laura thread...my bad!!!

Christy

[Lisa]

I may be using this site incorrectly, but the last time I checked, the G/L forum was password-protected. I can respect Lynn's disdainment at forums being password-protected, but the G/L forum is password-protected for obvious reasons; to allow posters of certain beliefs, lifestyles, whatever to be able to discuss their issues comfortably and openly without fear of being ridiculed. These are lifestyles and beliefs that are only relevant to some and should be restricted only to those who are going to provide support and friendship in relation to that lifestyle and/or set of beliefs. So, I differ with Lynn's opinion that it is narrow-minded to have a password-protected G/L forum.

I personally have no problem with all forums (including a religious one) being open to all, but as history has proven, certain issues are highly controversial and so the need for certain levels of protection for some forums so that certain people with unkind intent are not allowed to enter and cause disruptions to people who are trying to have a peaceful, civil and friendly conversation. I think that this right should apply to all groups, not just certain ones and if it is unfair for one group, then it is unfair for all.

I am torn on this one. I am inclined to think right now that my password protecting the forum was an over-reaction...I do think that Lynn has a point. I guess I just worry about flames by individuals who are less tolerant. I know that Jason has moderator powers...but we have seen what that causes when posts are removed. I need to think on this one and I would like the input of everyone in the group....if you don't mind...and I appreciate all of your kind words today. I really let it get to me because I put so much of myself into the board and the listserv.....

I guess my inclination would be toward not password protecting any boards. However, dedicated boards do make sense is such topic meet the needs of the users. I might want to read what is on these boards to see what is discussed in terms of medical spouse issues, but with the understanding that the dedicated section has another predefined focus.

Does that make sense to any of you guys?

Janet

[Lisa]

I am not offended at having the G/L forum password-protected as long as that same benefit is offered for other groups that may feel threatened because of their personal beliefs or orientation. I certainly understand why it was done. If forums such as the G/L forum have their password protection removed, I think that some ground rules should be established about posting in those forums such as, you may not post derogatory, inflammatory and insulting posts in those forums. They should be for support and friendship, not to attack the lifestyle choice or belief of the people in that forum. If you cannot respect the views of that group, then you should not post in that forum.

I still would like to see a Christian/Religious med. spouse forum with our without password-protection and after talking with some people I think that a forum of that nature is warranted and would help to foster an inclusive atmosphere at this site. New people coming here would see that this site welcomes people from very different walks of life. I would be willing to be the moderator if you are still willing to set it up. I will e-mail you with any details.

If you are being serious about wanting a religious forum that is password protected....I am not sure if that was meant seriously or in jest at me personally...I would do that for you...are you interested in being the moderator ...because I sure know that I don't want the job!!!! Let me know, Lisa and I will put it up for you.

Kristen