Hello there!
I'm VeggieFriend, I thought it would be fun to start a diary here. I've been a member of this site for a few months, but I thought it would be fun to start a diary now.
So let me introduce myself. I'm 29, wife to a new attending (he's been out of residency a little over 2 months), and mom to two cats. We just moved halfway across the country in July to our new city, which I'm enjoying very much (I had never been here before we decided to move here last fall, so this was a big adventure for me). I love the inspiration and adventure of moving, and although I'd never even been to this region of the country before, I'm really loving it here.
I recently started two new jobs (both temporary and part-time), and one of them is great, but the other one is just okay. I am pretty bored there most of the time in the one that is just okay. However, the hours are very flexible and I'm liking that, and it's at a place I'd like to work in as a permanent employee. So it's a way to get a foot in the door, even though it's turning out to be a pretty dull job.
I have many interests, including reading, art (drawing and painting), animals (I love them), and crafts. I also love hiking and outdoor activities, and love going to museums, festivals, and fun events. I am very much into self-improvement/personal development and love to read books that further this goal. I am also very much into learning, and like to take advantage of new experiences whenever I can, such as going to lectures, etc. And, of course, true to my name, I'm vegetarian!
I'm a city gal, and feel very much at home in huge cities, but I also enjoy the tranquility of the country. I love adventure, and am glad that we made this big move--big in the sense that we'd never been to this city before, I'd never been to this area of the country before, and we don't know a single person here. But I am enjoying the adventure!
Also, I am very career-oriented, and am always trying to figure out how to make the most of my skills and abilities in a career, as none of the jobs I've ever held have been a good match for me. My work history and background is "eclectic"--aka is very confusing to employers, which is why I've been severly underemployed since law school. I went to law school, decided I didn't want to practice law, and decided I wanted to be a doctor, which has always been a lifelong dream of mine. So in law school I started to take some science classes, and then I competed a post-bacc pre-med program right after law school, which took me a little over a year.
It was an exhillarating year--I loved my science courses, took orgo, physics, bio, gen chem, anatomy, etc., volunteered at free clinics, shadowed doctors, and was loving the life as a pre-med. Then I took the MCAT, and my dream began to look like it wasn't going to happen. I applied that summer to med schools anyway, and disappointingly (despite my excellent post-bacc grades), failed to get any interviews. Then I studied for the next MCAT while working full-time in the operating room at a local hospital.
So that was my first job out of law school--working in an OR! I loved working in the hospital, and I loved being in the ORs during surgeries, and learning from the attendings alongside the med students--it was thrilling!!!!! Although I was doing a lot of menial, boring work--but I loved being in the hospital environment. I felt inspired every day, and I studied hard for the MCAT and took advanced science classes at night. But sadly, my second MCAT was just one point better than my first, and I realized there was no point in applying again without re-taking the MCAT for a third time. That was April of '05. I felt crushed and let down. I couldn't understand how all my studying fell through like that, and I got pretty depressed about it, and at the same time, didn't feel that I was in the right frame of mind to re-study for the MCAT a third time, when I had just finished putting 4 months of dilligent effort into studying for the MCAT the second time around. At the same time, my job at the hospital ended, as it was only a temp job, and I began thinking about other careers, out of practicality, though my heart was, and has always been, in medicine.
I looked for a new job for 6 months. My law degree, coupled with my only job experience being an entry-level operating room job, made employers not want to hire me, though I applied for many jobs I was overqualified for. I ended up working in retail at the mall during this time, and it was a depressing time for me--working all day at the mall where everyone was 10 years younger than me, and then job searching at night and having no luck. Finally, I landed an entry-level job, but it was not a good fit, and I was bored out of my mind on a daily basis. Then I got laid off. That really sucked. Then I found a job as a legal secretary after a month of looking for something, which sucked big time. I was doing the most menial of tasks (filing, faxing, typing, answering phones), and while it paid well, it drove me bonkers. I am just not the kind of person who does well at boring office jobs, and this was the epitome of a boring office job, and I did my job well, even though I had lawyers barking orders at me all day without even a simple please or thank you. Finally, I quit that a month before we were moved here.
Moving here has been a nice change. I had an easier time finding work, and although I'm still bored out of my mind at my new job, at least it's at the place I would like to work at. However, career angst is always on my mind. I am so tired of being underemployed, which can be very stressful (when your skills and abilities go unused you just start to feel very restless, bored and frustrated) and I don't understand why I can never seem to land a job that's a good fit with my skills and abilities, instead of constantly being underemployed. I often think about returning to school, but as I already have one grad degree (and its debt!) I want to make sure I'm as close to 100% percent sure before I pursue another grad degree. I waiver from day to day on whether or not I want to reapply to med school. I think about med school a lot, and sigh with sadness when I think about all the time that has been wasted and that if only the MCAT had gone better, I'd be in med school now.
Anyhow, that's my background and where I'm coming from.
I still cannot decide which direction I want my career to take, and I've been debating this for over two years now. I am also considering dental school, a PhD in clinical psych, going back for another degree, starting a business, or entering a whole other field. And, then there's practicing law, which I am still considering (taking the bar exam this Feb.) but haven't really decided if I really want to do it.
I'm making an appointment to see a new career counselor and hopefully get all this career stuff sorted out. I've seen several career counselors in the past, but none of them were able to help me. But other than my ongoing career dissatisfaction and angst, everything else is good. I love our new city, we've done a lot of fun stuff already, even though we've only been here 2 months, and I feel inspired and motivated every day.
The only main disappointment of our move has been on the friends front. I have signed us up for so many groups/clubs/events, and we've been going, but no one seems to want another friend. We've invited couples out to dinner with us, but no one has reciprocated, and I've invited gals out to lunch, but again, no one has reciprocated. This is very frustrating for me because I had this same problem in our old city, which I also came to not knowing anyone. That problem can be summed up as: I'm always the one taking the initiatve to meet people, and asking people out for lunch, coffee, or whatever, and no one ever asks me out! It is frustrating beyond belief. I never had a problem making friends in college or law school, and am quite saddened and puzzled by how incredibly hard it is to make friends when you're out of school and in a brand new city.
I'm VeggieFriend, I thought it would be fun to start a diary here. I've been a member of this site for a few months, but I thought it would be fun to start a diary now.
So let me introduce myself. I'm 29, wife to a new attending (he's been out of residency a little over 2 months), and mom to two cats. We just moved halfway across the country in July to our new city, which I'm enjoying very much (I had never been here before we decided to move here last fall, so this was a big adventure for me). I love the inspiration and adventure of moving, and although I'd never even been to this region of the country before, I'm really loving it here.
I recently started two new jobs (both temporary and part-time), and one of them is great, but the other one is just okay. I am pretty bored there most of the time in the one that is just okay. However, the hours are very flexible and I'm liking that, and it's at a place I'd like to work in as a permanent employee. So it's a way to get a foot in the door, even though it's turning out to be a pretty dull job.
I have many interests, including reading, art (drawing and painting), animals (I love them), and crafts. I also love hiking and outdoor activities, and love going to museums, festivals, and fun events. I am very much into self-improvement/personal development and love to read books that further this goal. I am also very much into learning, and like to take advantage of new experiences whenever I can, such as going to lectures, etc. And, of course, true to my name, I'm vegetarian!
I'm a city gal, and feel very much at home in huge cities, but I also enjoy the tranquility of the country. I love adventure, and am glad that we made this big move--big in the sense that we'd never been to this city before, I'd never been to this area of the country before, and we don't know a single person here. But I am enjoying the adventure!
Also, I am very career-oriented, and am always trying to figure out how to make the most of my skills and abilities in a career, as none of the jobs I've ever held have been a good match for me. My work history and background is "eclectic"--aka is very confusing to employers, which is why I've been severly underemployed since law school. I went to law school, decided I didn't want to practice law, and decided I wanted to be a doctor, which has always been a lifelong dream of mine. So in law school I started to take some science classes, and then I competed a post-bacc pre-med program right after law school, which took me a little over a year.
It was an exhillarating year--I loved my science courses, took orgo, physics, bio, gen chem, anatomy, etc., volunteered at free clinics, shadowed doctors, and was loving the life as a pre-med. Then I took the MCAT, and my dream began to look like it wasn't going to happen. I applied that summer to med schools anyway, and disappointingly (despite my excellent post-bacc grades), failed to get any interviews. Then I studied for the next MCAT while working full-time in the operating room at a local hospital.
So that was my first job out of law school--working in an OR! I loved working in the hospital, and I loved being in the ORs during surgeries, and learning from the attendings alongside the med students--it was thrilling!!!!! Although I was doing a lot of menial, boring work--but I loved being in the hospital environment. I felt inspired every day, and I studied hard for the MCAT and took advanced science classes at night. But sadly, my second MCAT was just one point better than my first, and I realized there was no point in applying again without re-taking the MCAT for a third time. That was April of '05. I felt crushed and let down. I couldn't understand how all my studying fell through like that, and I got pretty depressed about it, and at the same time, didn't feel that I was in the right frame of mind to re-study for the MCAT a third time, when I had just finished putting 4 months of dilligent effort into studying for the MCAT the second time around. At the same time, my job at the hospital ended, as it was only a temp job, and I began thinking about other careers, out of practicality, though my heart was, and has always been, in medicine.
I looked for a new job for 6 months. My law degree, coupled with my only job experience being an entry-level operating room job, made employers not want to hire me, though I applied for many jobs I was overqualified for. I ended up working in retail at the mall during this time, and it was a depressing time for me--working all day at the mall where everyone was 10 years younger than me, and then job searching at night and having no luck. Finally, I landed an entry-level job, but it was not a good fit, and I was bored out of my mind on a daily basis. Then I got laid off. That really sucked. Then I found a job as a legal secretary after a month of looking for something, which sucked big time. I was doing the most menial of tasks (filing, faxing, typing, answering phones), and while it paid well, it drove me bonkers. I am just not the kind of person who does well at boring office jobs, and this was the epitome of a boring office job, and I did my job well, even though I had lawyers barking orders at me all day without even a simple please or thank you. Finally, I quit that a month before we were moved here.
Moving here has been a nice change. I had an easier time finding work, and although I'm still bored out of my mind at my new job, at least it's at the place I would like to work at. However, career angst is always on my mind. I am so tired of being underemployed, which can be very stressful (when your skills and abilities go unused you just start to feel very restless, bored and frustrated) and I don't understand why I can never seem to land a job that's a good fit with my skills and abilities, instead of constantly being underemployed. I often think about returning to school, but as I already have one grad degree (and its debt!) I want to make sure I'm as close to 100% percent sure before I pursue another grad degree. I waiver from day to day on whether or not I want to reapply to med school. I think about med school a lot, and sigh with sadness when I think about all the time that has been wasted and that if only the MCAT had gone better, I'd be in med school now.
Anyhow, that's my background and where I'm coming from.
I still cannot decide which direction I want my career to take, and I've been debating this for over two years now. I am also considering dental school, a PhD in clinical psych, going back for another degree, starting a business, or entering a whole other field. And, then there's practicing law, which I am still considering (taking the bar exam this Feb.) but haven't really decided if I really want to do it.
I'm making an appointment to see a new career counselor and hopefully get all this career stuff sorted out. I've seen several career counselors in the past, but none of them were able to help me. But other than my ongoing career dissatisfaction and angst, everything else is good. I love our new city, we've done a lot of fun stuff already, even though we've only been here 2 months, and I feel inspired and motivated every day.
The only main disappointment of our move has been on the friends front. I have signed us up for so many groups/clubs/events, and we've been going, but no one seems to want another friend. We've invited couples out to dinner with us, but no one has reciprocated, and I've invited gals out to lunch, but again, no one has reciprocated. This is very frustrating for me because I had this same problem in our old city, which I also came to not knowing anyone. That problem can be summed up as: I'm always the one taking the initiatve to meet people, and asking people out for lunch, coffee, or whatever, and no one ever asks me out! It is frustrating beyond belief. I never had a problem making friends in college or law school, and am quite saddened and puzzled by how incredibly hard it is to make friends when you're out of school and in a brand new city.
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