Ok I thought I would start a blog, more for myself than anything else to help get through these particularly bad days of being 2995 miles apart from SO and being basically a single parent.
I've just had the best month of my life, I quit my job that i've been moaning about for 2 years and gave up our home and moved back in with my parents, settled ds with them and did the worst mummy thing in the world, I left him with my parents to go and be with Ciaran for a month to try and make a start to setting up our lives over there and settling him into life in America.
the first 2 weeks were fantastic, he was in the emergency department working a 40 hour week, not over tired, and we had a blissful time with funny tales to tell, Ciaran could finally see how life is good no matter what country you live as long as you have the most important person in your life by your side. the second 2 weeks were trauma surgery, not nice but we still managed to do some things, during the long days it gave me a chance to find suitable places for our famil of 3 to live, so the things he hasn't been able to do because of work like buy a fridge! banking stuff, posting stuff, day to day things most people take for granted.
However 80+hour weeks are not good for Ciarans temprement and it lead so some minor arguments, both of us to blame, tiredness leads to many misunderstandings! all which resolved pretty quickly.
We went to New York and we went shopping for my engagment ring.
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v372/ ... CN1222.jpg.
Although I know which one he's going to get, I don't really know
We dont know when we'll get married as it is dependant on when ds and I can join him in America although we know if we could get married tomorrow we would be able to join him, I would do this, he is far more cautious than I am, he is also an only child and his mother would be devastated and I do understand this but my drive to be together is stronger.
Yet he surprises me at other times when one day I got some of the symtoms I got when I was pregnant with Matthew like this sudden hunger nd heart burn together where 'i have to eat now or i might eat you' and just other things, even though we are cautious, as things are now its far from ideal!! Anyway I was with Ciaran at the time visiting him for lunch at the hospital and I said this thought out loud and he suddenly got excited at the prospect of another baby. My face emotionless through this, we are living in impossible circumstances to bring up a family, its hard enough with one baby, I've moved out of our house and livng back with my parents so we can save to move over and afford my flights back and forth as often as possible!! Although it sadden me too when the test was negative even though we knew that was the most likely outcome.
The next day I boarded the plane and I arrived back here in Dublin this morning, its with tears I write that. I look out my bedroom window at the sea and its like a constant reminder how afr apart we are and not just that we won't even be able to talk for 2 week due the the time difference, by the time he gets home its 3am here, when I get up up its the middle of the night and when i get home from work he's in the middle of his day. I can't handle 3 min conversations, they are too hard and too rushed, i'd rather wait 2 weeks and have 2 hours! Ciaran wasn't meant to come to the airport he was at work, at 1pm 3 hours beofre i had to check in there was a tap at the window, he found someone to cover, i open the door and said nothing just burst into tears, it was so so wonderful to see him, like one last chance, it was the best gift he could have ever given me however when I got to the airport Ciaran handed me a bag with something in it, it was the smallest pair of scrubs I've ever seen for Matthew
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v372/ ... Photo5.jpg
2 hours after I was in the door these arrive. 12 longstem red roses, each of them so perfect.
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v372/ ... Photo7.jpg
I know we are far from being alone doing long distance tthing particularly in the medical profession and I'm so lucky i only have to do it for 8 weeks before we are back together and have another 2 weeks together, but it still is hard and feels like you are so alone, its really lonely. I can't just jump in the car or an airoplane and go and see him.
edited: Because I can't sleep, partially because I'm jet lagged and partially because it feels horrible lying here without Ciarán beside me, I've been browsing the net and Ciarán came online (skype) que the tears, it was so good to talk to him and see him, he was pretty happy too and didn't sleep last night, he did fall alseep while we were talking but it was lovely to see him peaceful and relaxed for seeig/talking to me. I hate crying, and I can't stop at the moment. my eyes are swollen and red (uurggh) my head is saying 'cop on, you are seeing him in 8 weeks, and my heart keeps arguing back 'but that isn't right now' and my heart keeps winning, I wish I cold put my head in control of all actions!! or at least a fair share of them! Thankfully I've been fine during the day with Matthew, he has seen mummy cry before but would hate him to see me really cut up!
I also got to tell Ciaran about what matthew said to me at the airport when I arrived with out him. When he starting asking where Daddy was, I was speechless thankfully he answered the question himself better than anything i could have said 'Daddy gone back on the plane to work mummy?' so I said yes and gave him one of his pressies (a litttle speed boat for the bath which Ciaran picked up at the aquarium....me thinks when we are over in November Matthew won't be the only one playing with it!!) and he immediately said look mummy daddy's driving the boat, look daddy is crying, so i asked why and he said 'daddy is sad, daddy misses mummy' and then he said, matthew misses mummy and gave me a big hug and started getting excited about all the planes again.
I've just had the best month of my life, I quit my job that i've been moaning about for 2 years and gave up our home and moved back in with my parents, settled ds with them and did the worst mummy thing in the world, I left him with my parents to go and be with Ciaran for a month to try and make a start to setting up our lives over there and settling him into life in America.
the first 2 weeks were fantastic, he was in the emergency department working a 40 hour week, not over tired, and we had a blissful time with funny tales to tell, Ciaran could finally see how life is good no matter what country you live as long as you have the most important person in your life by your side. the second 2 weeks were trauma surgery, not nice but we still managed to do some things, during the long days it gave me a chance to find suitable places for our famil of 3 to live, so the things he hasn't been able to do because of work like buy a fridge! banking stuff, posting stuff, day to day things most people take for granted.
However 80+hour weeks are not good for Ciarans temprement and it lead so some minor arguments, both of us to blame, tiredness leads to many misunderstandings! all which resolved pretty quickly.
We went to New York and we went shopping for my engagment ring.
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v372/ ... CN1222.jpg.
Although I know which one he's going to get, I don't really know
We dont know when we'll get married as it is dependant on when ds and I can join him in America although we know if we could get married tomorrow we would be able to join him, I would do this, he is far more cautious than I am, he is also an only child and his mother would be devastated and I do understand this but my drive to be together is stronger.
Yet he surprises me at other times when one day I got some of the symtoms I got when I was pregnant with Matthew like this sudden hunger nd heart burn together where 'i have to eat now or i might eat you' and just other things, even though we are cautious, as things are now its far from ideal!! Anyway I was with Ciaran at the time visiting him for lunch at the hospital and I said this thought out loud and he suddenly got excited at the prospect of another baby. My face emotionless through this, we are living in impossible circumstances to bring up a family, its hard enough with one baby, I've moved out of our house and livng back with my parents so we can save to move over and afford my flights back and forth as often as possible!! Although it sadden me too when the test was negative even though we knew that was the most likely outcome.
The next day I boarded the plane and I arrived back here in Dublin this morning, its with tears I write that. I look out my bedroom window at the sea and its like a constant reminder how afr apart we are and not just that we won't even be able to talk for 2 week due the the time difference, by the time he gets home its 3am here, when I get up up its the middle of the night and when i get home from work he's in the middle of his day. I can't handle 3 min conversations, they are too hard and too rushed, i'd rather wait 2 weeks and have 2 hours! Ciaran wasn't meant to come to the airport he was at work, at 1pm 3 hours beofre i had to check in there was a tap at the window, he found someone to cover, i open the door and said nothing just burst into tears, it was so so wonderful to see him, like one last chance, it was the best gift he could have ever given me however when I got to the airport Ciaran handed me a bag with something in it, it was the smallest pair of scrubs I've ever seen for Matthew
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v372/ ... Photo5.jpg
2 hours after I was in the door these arrive. 12 longstem red roses, each of them so perfect.
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v372/ ... Photo7.jpg
I know we are far from being alone doing long distance tthing particularly in the medical profession and I'm so lucky i only have to do it for 8 weeks before we are back together and have another 2 weeks together, but it still is hard and feels like you are so alone, its really lonely. I can't just jump in the car or an airoplane and go and see him.
edited: Because I can't sleep, partially because I'm jet lagged and partially because it feels horrible lying here without Ciarán beside me, I've been browsing the net and Ciarán came online (skype) que the tears, it was so good to talk to him and see him, he was pretty happy too and didn't sleep last night, he did fall alseep while we were talking but it was lovely to see him peaceful and relaxed for seeig/talking to me. I hate crying, and I can't stop at the moment. my eyes are swollen and red (uurggh) my head is saying 'cop on, you are seeing him in 8 weeks, and my heart keeps arguing back 'but that isn't right now' and my heart keeps winning, I wish I cold put my head in control of all actions!! or at least a fair share of them! Thankfully I've been fine during the day with Matthew, he has seen mummy cry before but would hate him to see me really cut up!
I also got to tell Ciaran about what matthew said to me at the airport when I arrived with out him. When he starting asking where Daddy was, I was speechless thankfully he answered the question himself better than anything i could have said 'Daddy gone back on the plane to work mummy?' so I said yes and gave him one of his pressies (a litttle speed boat for the bath which Ciaran picked up at the aquarium....me thinks when we are over in November Matthew won't be the only one playing with it!!) and he immediately said look mummy daddy's driving the boat, look daddy is crying, so i asked why and he said 'daddy is sad, daddy misses mummy' and then he said, matthew misses mummy and gave me a big hug and started getting excited about all the planes again.
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