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  • Total dressing down-vent

    So I was eating lunch in a new whole foods-ish (earth fare, heidi has one) grocery store that just opened with three friends and five kids. I had gone shopping beforehand so I brought my cart which had the little car attached into the cafe. DD 2 (18m) was sitting in the car part which is low to the ground playing with salt and pepper shakers and then crawling out into my lap during lunch. This 75 year old lady came up to me after a while and said "I cannot believe you have the nerve to bring your shopping cart in here loaded with groceries and be completely oblivious to your child holding a pepper shaker. You have no idea what is going on with her, you completely ignored her safety and you are completely oblivious to everyone else in this store whose lunches were ruined by you. You have ruined my lunch and ruined my day". I was so shocked that I said, I am so sorry, I had no idea... and she said " Of course you dont, you are oblivious to the world and everything around you". Then she walked over to an employee and pointed at me and shook her hands in the air and complained to him, then went to the manager, brought him to the area and again pointed and ranted and raved.

    Now I am the mom of two young kids who do misbehave, and this was not one of those days. There was no crying, no wandering around, there was no food on the floor, no loud noise. These people were sitting about three tables away. My friend sitting next to me is a pediatrician who didn't think anything was dangerous. I was so shocked and embarrassed bc pretty much the entire restaurant heard. And I wondered how I could just be enjoying myself while at the same time causing someone else to be so distraught over something I had no idea I was doing.

    When I left, I cried in my car for a good half hour. Why? I have no idea why I would let someone bother me so much.

    When I got home, one of the girls I was with called and said the manager came over to our table and apologized and asked for my address to send me an apology for my bad experience. She swears the manager came up to them, not the other way around. At least that was somewhat vindicating.

    But man, public humiliation is not my bag.
    Mom to three wild women.

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    Wow. Just wow. I'm so sorry.

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    • #3
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      Man, that sucks. People are crazy and the holidays make them crazier.

      I promise, this will be funny soon. think about how this woman acts w/ the people she knows!

      freak.

      Sorry. don't let her bring you down.

      Jenn

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      • #4
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        That is horrible. You didn't ruin her day -- she did it to herself and probably does every day that she gets out of bed. What a miserable person. I'm sorry you had that happen.

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        • #5
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          That is RIDICULOUS! What is up with people these days? Why do they feel like they can tell everyone else how to raise their children? You're telling me that woman's children (& grandchildren) sit completely still and don't make a move or a peep during meals out? Come on!

          I'm so sorry you went through that. People suck!
          Wife to NSG out of training, mom to 2, 10 & 8, and a beagle with wings.

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          • #6
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            Cranky old lady!! I can't believe she would be sooo rude. Ughh. People can be really awful and sorry that it happened to you.
            Danielle
            Wife of a sexy Radiologist and mom to TWO adorable little boys!

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            • #7
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              What is up with people? Does this lady not get out much? Has she not been in public recently? When going to grocery stores, public areas, etc., it is generally understood that there will be other people and even *gasp* kids, well-behaved ones and misbehaving ones. Get over it, lady. That is life!

              Something tells me that this old-bitty is, in general, an angry person. Nothing you did could have caused a reasonable person to become that upset. I'm so sorry. That would have made me cry too!!!

              I still remember the first time some old lady accosted me because my six-week old dd didn't have socks on when I was carrying her in her baby-bjorn. It was around 75 degrees outside and babies get really hot in those things. I remember crying too. When it comes to kids, some people just think everyone cares about their opinion. It sucks.
              Wife of Ophthalmologist and Mom to my daughter and two boys.

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              • #8
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                she sucks. you did nothing wrong. try not to let it get to you. big hugs.
                ~shacked up with an ob/gyn~

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                • #9
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                  Bitter, angry old lady - her issues were flaunted, not yours. I think most people probably saw that too. The manager's response is further evidence. But I hear you, despite knowing it I would have cried too. Sorry you had to endure that. Yuck.

                  Oh, to have the guts to do that with a straight face Annie!

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                  • #10
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                    sorry-double post

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                    • #11
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                      OMG, how awful.

                      She's the one who sucks, not you. You didn't do anything wrong. That being said, I probably would have cried and moped about it too.

                      I honestly can't believe how rude some people are. I'm so sorry that happened to you today!
                      ~Jane

                      -Wife of urology attending.
                      -SAHM to three great kiddos (2 boys, 1 girl!)

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                      • #12
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                        Originally posted by cupcake
                        That is horrible. You didn't ruin her day -- she did it to herself and probably does every day that she gets out of bed. What a miserable person. I'm sorry you had that happen.
                        ITA -- and I'm sorry you had that experience!

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                        • #13
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                          She needs to pull up the adult diaper and stop picking on innocent people like you. I'm sorry you had to deal with this!
                          married to an anesthesia attending

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                          • #14
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                            It shows how very sweet you are that you actually apologized instead of getting mad... and I'm so sorry to think of you crying in your car for half an hour - - - so sorry. I know it can really hurt to be humiliated like that. I hope you are feeling better this evening. Obviously, the woman is miserable with her own life. Luckily, she is not someone who matters in your life.
                            Blessings to you.
                            m

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                            • #15
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                              wow the nerve of some people!!! You did nothing wrong and I'm sorry you had to go through such humiliation. I'm sure everyone who overheard the situation realized this was just some crazy grumpy old bat.
                              Charlene~Married to an attending Ophtho Mudphud and Mom to 2 daughters

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