Mosted Wanted Gift

[Phoebe]

Our local newspaper ran an article that asked community members to name their best gift received, best gift given and what gift they wanted most. Most people listed gifts they wanted most as a huge ticket item or a social outcome like world peace. When I asked my husband, he said he wanted another child. His reply surprised me because I didn't know it was so important to him. With the end of my husband's fellowship in 7 months, we have been concentrating on his job search and the probability that we will be relocating. I feel a little pressured to fit all this in with having another baby. I have only recently felt back to normal after the birth of our first child 14 months ago. I still have to lose a dress size!!!! I can't imagine dealing with pregnancy and more child care. I guess that means I am not really ready to expand our family yet. To see my husband so in love with our daughter fills my heart and to give him something he wants most makes me feel good. I think he will have to wait a little longer for the precious gift. Maybe he will settle for a pair of shoes instead!

Jennifer

[mommax3]

Jennifer,

I just wanted to post and say that I think it is so sweet that another baby is your husband's most wanted gift. I think you need to listen to your own feelings about having another -- but treasure the fact that he is anxious to add to your family! My husband is a wonderful man and a great father, but I have always brought up adding to our family first. (And there are three years between our three boys, so it's not like I was jumping the gun!) He just has a more careful personality and I am more apt to choose difficulty in the short term for rewards in the long term -- although that is what a medical career is, so maybe we are both like that, just in different areas. Anyway, just wanted to let you know that I found his comment touching.

Sally