Finding out

[Howfunitis]

When we found out we were pregnant. We both wanted to know the sex. Before that though EVEYONE was saying I was having a boy. Got the hear the heartbeat and only 2 people said I was having a girl. Weird thing about dreams was that, I would dream I a lite boy and in my dream he would become a SHE. Deep down I knew I was having a girl but when we found out from the ultrasound (14 weeks). It was sureeal!! I had wanted to have a boy ( past parents drama is why I had these feelings) but yes at that time, I had so many insecurities and I needed hubby's more then ever. We were shocked. By the 20 weeks, we had gotten use to the idea of having a girl and knew we would be upset if it turned out to be a boy but it wasn't until she was here that changed everything. If we had waited for a surprise who knows how I would have felt. For baby #2, I think we might surprise ourselves


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[alison]

There is totally pressure for a boy with #3 if you have two girls. I get "are you going for a boy?" all the time when I mention that we'd like more children. Of course any child is an almost inconceivable blessing but if I'm completely honest, I would like to parent children of both sexes.

We love having sisters, and have no interest in having another, despite people asking "even if you were guaranteed a boy?"

[Thirteen]

Somewhere, there's a thread on here with "stupid things people have said to me upon the birth of my second boy" content.

I think my favorite was the "Awwwww, well, that's alright!" one.
...what? *sigh*


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[TulipsAndSunscreen]

Maybe I'm biased but I think there's more pressure to have a boy than a girl. People assume my husband CANNOT be happy with girls. Where people seem to say to moms with boys, "oh but boys are so close with their moms"...

Either way it's pretty dumb considering the lack of control...

[OrionGrad]

I don't know, [MENTION=1315]TulipsAndSunscreen[/MENTION], the pressure to have a girl is pretty strong, too. I can't even count the number of people who've asked me if we're going to keep trying until we get a girl. It's seriously one of the most annoying things someone can say to me, and I hear it all the time lately.

[alison]

We have gotten a lot of "now there's no one to pass the name down," and from my mil, who had 3 boys and now has only granddaughters: "I didn't say I didn't want ANY grandsons!" Sigh. Honestly, you can never do right by anyone!

[JDAZ11]

I don't know, [MENTION=1315]TulipsAndSunscreen[/MENTION], the pressure to have a girl is pretty strong, too. I can't even count the number of people who've asked me if we're going to keep trying until we get a girl. It's seriously one of the most annoying things someone can say to me, and I hear it all the time lately.

I agree. We haven't even told anyone the genders yet because I know my family is going to disappointed that at least one isn't a girl.


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[SoonerTexan]

Haha, we knew a family growing up that had FIVE boys. Adorable, too. Then they had a surprise and lo and behold...a girl. It was pretty funny.

[gem]

Yep, I have two boys, and people don't hesitate to remind me that boys won't have any time for their mommas after they get married. I love spending play dates reflecting on how I'm likely to die alone.

[TulipsAndSunscreen]

I feel like the "can't carry on the name" and the implication that Dad will be bored without a boy to throw a baseball with is equally if not more prominent. Maybe just where I live. But many religions and cultures place such high emphasis on males that it seems more to me...

But you guys with two boys would know better than me for sure.

[Pollyanna]

I think people just try to make conversation and don't really mean much by it. Folks used to say to me after our second, "so are you done now since you have one of each"? Or, "why are you having a third, you already have a boy and girl"?

[JDAZ11]

Yep, I have two boys, and people don't hesitate to remind me that boys won't have any time for their mommas after they get married. I love spending play dates reflecting on how I'm likely to die alone.

I agree. Plus, after my experience with my MIL - I'm not super excited about being one!!! (That said, I think my mother is nutcase too, I just can't help but love her).

DH's family hasn't produced a girl in like 5 generations. I'm not sure we should take gender into account when deciding if we should have more kids......


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[Thirteen]

Did I miss that the twins are boys, JDAZ?


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[JDAZ11]

Did I miss that the twins are boys, JDAZ?


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They are!


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[Howfunitis]

In my mind (thanks to my wwonndeefull dad) I have to have a boy. If it doesn't happen then it doesn't but it will require hubby's attention to assure me he won't cheat on me because we don't have a boy. Long story but I would be much harder on myself


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