Bonehead things people say to expecting and new parents

Congratulations, Fluffhead!

Some people have a lot of nerve, saying all these things!

[Meenah]

Congratulations Fluffhead!!!!!!! I miss babies, I'll have to enjoy all of your's. I have to agree the when are you due? when you gave birth 6 months prior really sucks.
Luanne

[Cumberland]

My favorite- You are having twins right?

My favorite- You are having twins right?

I forgot about that one! I heard that with this last pregnancy. Or, "Are you sure it's not twins?"

[peggyfromwastate]

I missed this thread--- first congrats to fluffhead!

most ridiculous statements came after my boy/girl twins were born:

1) are they identical?
2) they can't be twins. he is soooo much bigger. (this was said very accusingly, like I was playing a joke on the inquisitive person at Costco)
3) did you use fertility drugs? (this always is from a complete stranger--stll get that question lots)

Can't remember more at this time--- I think that's a good thing!

Jenn- I am HORRIFIED at some of the comments you've received! Some people...

[Rapunzel]

Most bonehead thing anyone ever said to me post-partum:

I had just given birth to my twins six weeks early. They were both in the NICU (where they remained for two weeks) while I was discharged from the hospital. I religously went to the NICU twice a day every day for the duration of their stay. During one of these first trips (while I was still recovering from toxemia among other pregnancy/labor-related trauma) I was sitting in a wheelchair by the entry to the hospital emergency room on a weekend day while my mother (who drove me there - I wasn't physically able to drive yet) parked the car. A security guard looking to be in his late fifities-early sixties approached me and asked if I was in labor. I told him, "No, I just gave birth two days before." He looked at me increduously and said, "In the old days women just gave birth in the field and went back to work." I was kind of mad at that point and said, " In the 'old days' BOTH of my babies would be dead along with me! I am about to visit them in the NICU." It shut him up.

Jennifer

[Rapunzel]

Oh, I just remembered a comment I often got from people when I was pregnant with the fourth kid (after I had a singleton pregnancy followed by a twin pregnancy): "Hee hee. You had one the first time, two the second time, and I bet you'll have triplets the third time!" Believe me, that was NOT funny. I really had a truly horrific twin pregnancy and I know very few women who have given birth to multiples who had pleasant pregnancy experiences.

Jennifer