My Avery is a month away from being 3 yrs old. She doesn't want to potty train. She wants to wear big girl underwear and get the rewards (stickers chart and candy) of going potty, but doesn't want to sit on the toilet. Sometimes she is too busy to do it and other times she just doesn't want too. She has no problem using the toilet, but chooses against it. She pretty much changes her own diaper and tells us when she goes then refuses when I try to get her on the seat. If she does sit on the toilet she avoids going and wants to get off immediately.
We have let her wear underwear around the house, but it becomes a hassle and she has accidents because she doesn't have the mind/body connection. I was trying to have her go every hour and if she refused she would pee on the floor minutes later so I know she had to go. We have reverted back to diapers because she seems to be happy with them, but I would like to her use the toilet because I know she can. We let her know about all of her friends using the pottty and I even offered to bribe her with a toy of her choice once she fills up her sticker chart. She still is not motivated.
I don't know if I should pressure her to use the toilet or just let her stay in diapers. I am reading a book about 3 year old by Louis Bates Ames who wrote that most 3 year olds, especially girls should be able to stay dry and therefore be potty-trained. A neighbor of ours who is a psychologist said she punished her children when they wouldn't use the potty by giving them a time out for being disrespectful of the parent and not following directions. The focus of the punishment was not on using the toilet, but not following directions. It worked for my neighbor. I feel kind of uncomfortable with that.
Do any vetran parents have suggestions? Should I wait a little longer and let Avery take the lead or should I try to pressure her into potty training? I am sick of her in diapers.
We have let her wear underwear around the house, but it becomes a hassle and she has accidents because she doesn't have the mind/body connection. I was trying to have her go every hour and if she refused she would pee on the floor minutes later so I know she had to go. We have reverted back to diapers because she seems to be happy with them, but I would like to her use the toilet because I know she can. We let her know about all of her friends using the pottty and I even offered to bribe her with a toy of her choice once she fills up her sticker chart. She still is not motivated.
I don't know if I should pressure her to use the toilet or just let her stay in diapers. I am reading a book about 3 year old by Louis Bates Ames who wrote that most 3 year olds, especially girls should be able to stay dry and therefore be potty-trained. A neighbor of ours who is a psychologist said she punished her children when they wouldn't use the potty by giving them a time out for being disrespectful of the parent and not following directions. The focus of the punishment was not on using the toilet, but not following directions. It worked for my neighbor. I feel kind of uncomfortable with that.
Do any vetran parents have suggestions? Should I wait a little longer and let Avery take the lead or should I try to pressure her into potty training? I am sick of her in diapers.
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