2nd day of school: call home to mom from kindergarten teacher. I've asked her both days "how he did" as I was picking him up, and both times she said "okay -- he's a little jumpy" and kind of did the "so-so" hand gesture. Today he was apparently mad about something, so started scratching the markers on the desk. The teacher rewarded those with good behavior with candy, and those (Jacob - not sure if there were others) with less-than-stellar behavior did not get candy. This set him off - of course. At the end of the day when they were supposed to put their folders in their backpacks, he refused (for quite some time) and told the teacher she's "not the boss of him".
His teacher was not calling to complain, but rather calling to explain b/c she assumed (correctly) that Jacob was a 'little sad' when he came home. By 'little sad' I mean he swore he was never going to that 'dumb school' again, begged for candy & told me that mean Miss Neumann didn't give him any. She & I came up with a plan to hopefully get him excited about going again on Monday. She also had positive things to say about him ... and was very kind and reassuring ... I just never expected to have the problem kid in KINDERGARTEN.
Later I had a babysitter booked for tonight (I was supposed to go to a party, but decided I wasn't in the mood and went running errands instead). When the boys saw her they went crazy - running around and showing off their speed, etc. I warned her that Jacob is really in a 'testing limits' kind of stage, and she'll probably need to show him who is boss. Turns out she was REALLY grateful I warned her, b/c she felt like she was being too mean when she had to physically drag him to the stairs for timeout, and then up to his room for a longer time out b/c he wouldn't stay put on the stairs. She called her mom for reassurance, and the mom said "If Jenn said that then I think you did the right thing." I have no problem with what she did ... my problem is with the fact that she HAD to do it. I am no wallflower when it comes to my kids discipline (I know that comes as a HUGE surprise), and run a pretty tight ship with them. I am SO frustrated that he's acting out in such a huge way! We haven't had any major family changes or anything ... I don't know what is setting him off. I just feel like things are out of conrtrol!
Bwahhhhhhhhhhh!
His teacher was not calling to complain, but rather calling to explain b/c she assumed (correctly) that Jacob was a 'little sad' when he came home. By 'little sad' I mean he swore he was never going to that 'dumb school' again, begged for candy & told me that mean Miss Neumann didn't give him any. She & I came up with a plan to hopefully get him excited about going again on Monday. She also had positive things to say about him ... and was very kind and reassuring ... I just never expected to have the problem kid in KINDERGARTEN.
Later I had a babysitter booked for tonight (I was supposed to go to a party, but decided I wasn't in the mood and went running errands instead). When the boys saw her they went crazy - running around and showing off their speed, etc. I warned her that Jacob is really in a 'testing limits' kind of stage, and she'll probably need to show him who is boss. Turns out she was REALLY grateful I warned her, b/c she felt like she was being too mean when she had to physically drag him to the stairs for timeout, and then up to his room for a longer time out b/c he wouldn't stay put on the stairs. She called her mom for reassurance, and the mom said "If Jenn said that then I think you did the right thing." I have no problem with what she did ... my problem is with the fact that she HAD to do it. I am no wallflower when it comes to my kids discipline (I know that comes as a HUGE surprise), and run a pretty tight ship with them. I am SO frustrated that he's acting out in such a huge way! We haven't had any major family changes or anything ... I don't know what is setting him off. I just feel like things are out of conrtrol!
Bwahhhhhhhhhhh!
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