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Re: biting
Daegan's a biter. We're about to be kicked out of daycare for it. He doesn't bite at home....or when we're with other toddlers/friends.....so it's REALLY hard for me to correct the behavior. The daycare doesn't always "see" what happens.....I think there is probably some type of disagreement before he bites, but I'm not there so I really don't know. It's also hard for me to care when they tell me. I wonder what they are doing differently that allows him to get to that point. But maybe I'm just passing the blame. We tried talking about it at home. That teeth are for brushing and eating and smiling. Teeth are not for biting, etc. We've also stopped asking him if he'd like a "bite" of our food....we ask if he wants a "taste." We also don't play bite with him...like nibble on an ear or toe or something...not that we really did all that much. Now our new thing is to tell him "No hit. Daegan count, 1, 2, 3." It's new as of this week...and I'm having the daycare say "No bite, etc".....To hopefully maybe get him to stop and think before he reacts on emotion.
My other concern is that he gets too much attention after he bites....I know they are trying to correct the behavior but they scold him and I've seen them in their "time-outs" and they get spoken to almost the whole time. A time-out in our house is more an ignoring...to remove attention. I think they should spend more time fussing over the bitee.....and ignore Daegan. I think it may be "attention-getting" because he doesn't do it around me. But again, I'm not there so I don't know. The webcams haven't been working so I can't watch....it might not matter anyway....I think we'll probably be out by the end of the month.
Daegan's a biter. We're about to be kicked out of daycare for it. He doesn't bite at home....or when we're with other toddlers/friends.....so it's REALLY hard for me to correct the behavior. The daycare doesn't always "see" what happens.....I think there is probably some type of disagreement before he bites, but I'm not there so I really don't know. It's also hard for me to care when they tell me. I wonder what they are doing differently that allows him to get to that point. But maybe I'm just passing the blame. We tried talking about it at home. That teeth are for brushing and eating and smiling. Teeth are not for biting, etc. We've also stopped asking him if he'd like a "bite" of our food....we ask if he wants a "taste." We also don't play bite with him...like nibble on an ear or toe or something...not that we really did all that much. Now our new thing is to tell him "No hit. Daegan count, 1, 2, 3." It's new as of this week...and I'm having the daycare say "No bite, etc".....To hopefully maybe get him to stop and think before he reacts on emotion.
My other concern is that he gets too much attention after he bites....I know they are trying to correct the behavior but they scold him and I've seen them in their "time-outs" and they get spoken to almost the whole time. A time-out in our house is more an ignoring...to remove attention. I think they should spend more time fussing over the bitee.....and ignore Daegan. I think it may be "attention-getting" because he doesn't do it around me. But again, I'm not there so I don't know. The webcams haven't been working so I can't watch....it might not matter anyway....I think we'll probably be out by the end of the month.
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