Baby sleeping

[MrsK]

Oh, we let K1 sleep in the carseat or swing at night. Sometimes, they don't like to lay flat. If she sleeps in the carseat during the day, she may like that.

[Deebs]

Have you gotten her outside in this great weather? Fresh air always knocked my kiddos out (just make sure she's not napping in the fresh air and using up all her sleepiness).

[Thirteen]

I forgot to add: do whatever you have to do to keep your sanity/get some sleep. I'm not judging at all.
If someone gives you a hard time, just let it roll off your back, and continue on.
We have all been there!!


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[TulipsAndSunscreen]

So for those of you who's kids had reflux, what was it like? I'm thinking she doesn't have it because she never fusses when she spits up. It always amazes me since she spits up with no warning and no crying/pain and acts like nothing happened. I thought refluex was painful?

I'm not totally anti-paci, I don't want her to have it during the day but I'd be fine for sleeping. She just won't take the damn thing at night! I've stuck it in her mouth about a million times and it seems to tick her off more. Her angry cry is pretty obvious! (her mama's daughter..)

I'm going to try and move bedtime earlier. I didn't know that was late for a baby if they were napping during the day. I do try and not let her sleep for too long but sometimes it's impossible if we're at a doctor's appointment or something. I'm wondering if it's not colic.

[Michele]

Daegan didn't spit up with his reflux. He just fussed a lot regarding feedings and being flat. When he was flat you could hear liquid slosh up into his throat/nose. It was gross sounding. He was also uncomfortable. You could just tell he was bellyaching.


Mine all had late bedtimes at first. They seemed to follow the same schedule they had in utero. Slept a lot in the mornings, active in the evenings and around bedtime. Eventually they regulated once they started getting up earlier bc I was noisy or we had to leave. Also the natural sun/light cycles I think helped.

But again, I'm probably not one to talk about sleep. I'm really not structured with it until after a year. Mine all slept in a carrier or on me or with me. (hijack- my boys sleep update: they seem extra needy in general, but I have been too stressed to really notice. I think their world is just too upside down despite my best efforts to keep it even. We are having good sleep days and bad sleep days and I'm trying to just roll with it.)

[ladymoreta]

DS almost never spit up, and didn't seem to care when he did. That's a big part of why we didn't catch it for so long. His obviously wasn't very severe, but it was enough to keep him from falling asleep or back to sleep on his own, and Zantac made it possible for us to start putting him down drowsy but awake.

Figuring it out started as just a hunch. We were thinking he was waking up for his pacifier, since he'd go to sleep quickly after getting it back. (Sucking triggered him to swallow, which helped.) So we got rid of the paci, and I was in early pregnancy and very tired, so I started cosleeping. That's when I noticed he stiffened and arched his back when he woke up. (And the fact that cosleeping didn't stop the wake ups was another clue.) I remembered SusySunshine mentioning the back arching with her son, so that's when we talked to the doctor about starting Zantac.

[Pollyanna]

I'm wondering if it's not colic.

If it turns out to be colic just know that it will end and likely just before you go back to work. Also know that it is nothing you are doing wrong and your sweet girl will grow out of it and the screaming will soon be a distant memory.

[SuzySunshine]

Yes, our ped told us the back arching was key whether they showed discomfort or not. R slept in his car seat until he was over 4 months old and our ped was fine with that, she did warn us that the longer we let him do it the harder it would be to break him of it but as he outgrew the reflux, around six months, his sleeping flat improved considerably.

[alison]

Dd had severe reflux, and Zantac did not help (we moved on to the next medication Prevacid, which did work). M did not arch her back. She did cough a lot, seemed gassy (big stomach after meals), and preferred to be upright. She began to refuse eating altogether, and that's when we took her in and started Zantac. My feeling is that you should try a few days with moving her bedtime up, and if she seems worse, then take her in. Peds tend to prescribe Zantac if you have a hunch it's reflux, and quite honestly, I would stay away from going down that road. Even though it didn't work for dd, it was tough to wean her off of it (she was even fussier, grassier, angrier when we started weaning and getting her on the medication that worked for her). I just wouldn't want you to go down a road you don't have to go down...

[alison]

That came out wrong... If its reflux, than absolutely get it treated. It's just a hard wean in my experience if the Zantac doesn't work, and it's the first medication they'll prescribe.

[Pollyanna]

Dd had severe reflux, and Zantac did not help (we moved on to the next medication Prevacid, which did work). M did not arch her back. She did cough a lot, seemed gassy (big stomach after meals), and preferred to be upright. She began to refuse eating altogether, and that's when we took her in and started Zantac. My feeling is that you should try a few days with moving her bedtime up, and if she seems worse, then take her in. Peds tend to prescribe Zantac if you have a hunch it's reflux, and quite honestly, I would stay away from going down that road. Even though it didn't work for dd, it was tough to wean her off of it (she was even fussier, grassier, angrier when we started weaning and getting her on the medication that worked for her). I just wouldn't want you to go down a road you don't have to go down...

YES! There is a significant rebound effect when you stop Zantac. I may be wrong but I think if your child has reflux issues it is something you will see all day long, not just at night. Maybe when you are trying the earlier bedtime also try and have her sleep flat during the day as well (if she has reflux, laying flat will be a problem any time of day). I realize this is an impossibility if you are out and about. Try to have her sleep where she will sleep at night. Feed her every two hours during the day (waking if necessary). You are kind of front loading her feeding this way and fixing the day/night switch if that is a problem. Then try the earlier bedtime and see what happens. Good luck and keep us posted.

[SoonerTexan]

Never mind about the pacifier then. Just hugs!

[TulipsAndSunscreen]

We should probably start laying her down to sleep during the day both to try and figure out what's going on and for practical reasons (daycare isnt going to hold her for every nap even if that would be my preference...). We just like loving on her and wearing on her. I think that's part of what's driving me so crazy - if I wasn't going back to work I wouldn't care about the sleep schedule and I could let her ease into her own pattern. That would be my preference and a fit with my parenting style but I can't because of work (and we did our budget last night there's no way I can't work, we pay for too much stuff for my in laws). I think my own guilt is killing me more than the not sleeping. She's such an angel and I don't want to force her to sleep or put her in a daycare that will force her to a schedule that doesn't work for her!

Ok this post has evolved a lot but it's help me realize what's really wrong here...thanks ladies!

[Pollyanna]

. That would be my preference and a fit with my parenting style but I can't because of work (and we did our budget last night there's no way I can't work, we pay for too much stuff for my in laws).

Ok this post has evolved a lot but it's help me realize what's really wrong here...thanks ladies!

This is none of my business but can you give the inlaws a date as to when the support will stop? If you have to leave your child against your wishes to support them I fear it will be the beginning of the end of any future healthy relationship. You are a really good woman.

[Michele]

Maybe that's why I had trouble with the daycare D was in when he was small. I let them figure out what worked for his sleep there and did what I did at home. He seemed to sleep fine for them but I thought that they didn't like him.