Kill me now...

[JC76]

MIL came last night to stay overnight and spend today "helping" with the kids. I'm sitting here trying to pump and at the same time catch up on work emails and she just spent the last 15 minutes explaining the Mayan calendar 2012 end of the world thing to me and how it ties into Indian astrology and how the massive power outtage today in India confirms that it's all connected.

And as I finished typing that I just had to listen to her lecture me on how the bottle of pumped breast milk that I gave her to give the baby wasn't enough because she drank it so fast that she is clearly starving and needs more. Got the same lecture from my mom a few days ago. Baby looks completely content and satisfied to me. And there is nothing I can do to convince her otherwise. What the hell is up with grandmas thinking we're starving our kids?? My own mom had the nerve to say to me, "well I guess I come from the school where we just fed our kids until they weren't hungry anymore, instead of limiting them." My response - "Then I guess I'm from the new school that likes to starve our kids?"

Oh, and MIL showed up last night with a big bag of gummy bears and gave them to my 2 1/2 year old DD without asking me first. I took them away and now DD #1 is OBSESSED with them and asking for them constantly. When DD started begging for one before going down for her nap (she was doing everything she could to stall going back to her room for the nap) I said no, she then turned to MIL asked HER if she could have one and MIL's response - "Just wait until your Daddy wakes up and he'll give you one." (he's sleeping off a night shift at the moment).

Awesome. Kill me now.

[Mrs. MD, Esq.]

Oh, and she showed up last night with a big bag of gummy bears and gave them to my 2 1/2 year old DD without asking me first. I took them away and now DD #1 is OBSESSED with them and asking for them constantly.

Awesome.

Tell her grandma ate them all.

[scrub-jay]

Been there, dealt with that. Tell her (and this comes from my bff the child-development expert) "Oh, those? You can only have those when grandma is here, that is a special treat" and kids can understand "special circumstances"... when my parents were here, they offered my dd sorbet FAR more frequently than we ever do, but each time I just asked my mom to tell her "because Grandma is here..." Then when your MIL comes back with no gummy worms... it's on her. It's worked well for my kiddo, she only asked once and I said "oh, yea, that was special because it was grandma" All about framing.

[JC76]

Scrub-jay - awesome advice. Thank you. Although I also am tempted to tell her that grandma at them all, sorry.

[Thirteen]

*siiiiiiigh*
Hang in there!
Can you shut yourself in a private place when pumping? For crying out loud, of COURSE a baby will suck a bottle down faster than you can blink. On the same side, of course you produce more than the pump is telling.
I know you know all this, but just don't let it get to you.

About random BS? Two phrases (a la Chris Rock):
"Uh huh."
"You don't say."




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[MrsK]

Oh, big hugs. BTW, my MIL apparently comes from the school that starves their kids. She nags me for feeding mine too often. (My boys start chanting "eat, eat, eat" if they are not fed every 3 hours.) There is no winning. They'd offer unsolicited "advice" either way.

[moonlight]

You can't win. You are either feeding too much or not enough, and no matter the answer there is always some passive aggressive side comment that ties everything up in bow. Don't these old hags know better than to mess with a postpartum woman???

[SoonerTexan]

nd there is nothing I can do to convince her otherwise. What the hell is up with grandmas thinking we're starving our kids??

Yep! Though my mom caught herself and apologized for it She luckily still remembers what it was like for her.

[spotty_dog]

About random BS? Two phrases (a la Chris Rock):
"Uh huh."
"You don't say."

And courtesy, I think it's the LLL, you can add "That's nice...pass the bean dip?"

[Phoebe]

I starve my child too.

[niener]

Oye. Get really good at finding a mental happy place and try to go there when your MIL is in town.

[peggyfromwastate]

You can't win. You are either feeding too much or not enough, and no matter the answer there is always some passive aggressive side comment that ties everything up in bow. Don't these old hags know better than to mess with a postpartum woman???

Lol!!!

[ladymoreta]

I starve my child too.

Haha me too, and it's pretty much child abuse that I waited until 6 months to start solids. Milk was clearly not enough because my baby is just skin and bones.

[JC76]

It is cracking me up how all of us dawkter's wives are such incompetent mothers. It's amazing any of our kids survive.

[ladymoreta]

But the part of me that knows karma is coming wonders what my kids will do with their babies that will drive me crazy!