Re: My son has driven me over the edge
With your son being responsive and respectful to other adults, just not you, this isn't a situation that you can clear up on your own. It isn't your fault, nor is it solely on your shoulders to correct. Daddy absolutely needs to be the one stepping up and making it VERY clear that this behavior will NOT be tolerated, in the least. Maybe DS needs some dates with daddy, alone?
And counseling isn't a bad idea, at all. DS might be feeling anxiety, powerlessness, etc, and is taking it out on you because you're the safest outlet. It could likely have absolutely nothing to do with your relationship with him, but because he knows you'll always love him (you're mom so you HAVE to love him, in his mind) he feels safest letting out his jerky stuff on you. A good counselor can replace you as that outlet and take the brunt of whatever his feelings of the moment are. They might also teach your son appropriate ways of dealing with his feelings, or, at a minimum give your son a place to vent his spleen so he doesn't vent on you and his siblings.
Don't be afraid of a diagnosis if one is appropriate. It doesn't change who your son is. It simply makes it easier for him to be treated, if necessary, and for him to live a happier/easier life in the future. If there are issues, it's better to determine what they are and deal with them earlier instead of later.
No matter what, you're a great mom. And I think we all have fantasies of being sans kids every once in a while. It's totally natural so don't beat yourself up over it.
Originally posted by mommax3
With your son being responsive and respectful to other adults, just not you, this isn't a situation that you can clear up on your own. It isn't your fault, nor is it solely on your shoulders to correct. Daddy absolutely needs to be the one stepping up and making it VERY clear that this behavior will NOT be tolerated, in the least. Maybe DS needs some dates with daddy, alone?
And counseling isn't a bad idea, at all. DS might be feeling anxiety, powerlessness, etc, and is taking it out on you because you're the safest outlet. It could likely have absolutely nothing to do with your relationship with him, but because he knows you'll always love him (you're mom so you HAVE to love him, in his mind) he feels safest letting out his jerky stuff on you. A good counselor can replace you as that outlet and take the brunt of whatever his feelings of the moment are. They might also teach your son appropriate ways of dealing with his feelings, or, at a minimum give your son a place to vent his spleen so he doesn't vent on you and his siblings.
Don't be afraid of a diagnosis if one is appropriate. It doesn't change who your son is. It simply makes it easier for him to be treated, if necessary, and for him to live a happier/easier life in the future. If there are issues, it's better to determine what they are and deal with them earlier instead of later.
No matter what, you're a great mom. And I think we all have fantasies of being sans kids every once in a while. It's totally natural so don't beat yourself up over it.
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