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[Phoebe]

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My daughter has a couple for summer, but I wasn't allowing her to wear them to school.

I'm honestly just curious about this. Why no spaghetti straps at school? :

I can't find my first post so hopefully it didn't end up somewhere else on this board. Let me try it again.

I honestly don't know why I don't won't her wearing them. 1. Weather. It went from being winter to 70's pretty fast and I haven't downloaded that quickly. I put on two layers of t-shirts this morning. 2. I am a conservative dresser myself and tanks and spaghetti straps aren't in my wardrobe normally in my comfort zone. 3. I am a little freaked out by the kid's clothing selection for my daughter's age. The shirts worn by girls at my daughter's school were cute and not too revealing. My daughter would like me to relax a little.

[houseelf]

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appropriate clothing for the little kids set
then went into HSM
pre-teen/teen girls clothing
now medical personnel clothing

We are quite the Renaissance group!

RE: High School Musical. Personally, I find it much more wholesome than other Disney movies. Although if you remember correctly I was a bit aghast at the level of violence in the incredibles when I was expecting a gentle children's movie. I think I was in the minority on this one. Personally, I grew up watching Grease, which is MUCH racier than HSM. Think cigarettes, overt sexual references, teenage pregnancy, etcetera. We used to put on costumes and dance to Grease...for about two years of my life. Even at the ripe age of 34, someone belting out "Chang, chang, changity chang cha bop" takes me to my happy place. (cough, cough DORK!)

HSM does have some gentle boyfriend/girlfriend pairing off. There are no lewd references, no kissing, no fighting, no illicit substances, and the girls wear one piece swimsuits at the pool (errr HSM2...not that I've seen it like four thousand times or anything). The heroine is a doe eyed, intelligent, kind hispanic girl who is lauded for her academic achievements. The hero has a respectful and reverant relationship with his father. There is also gossip and conniving by the antagonist, but it is pretty mild compared to what is out there. I personally give it my mom stamp of approval. Besides, the songs are so catchy.

RE: Parenting ain't for the faint of heart. IMHO, there is no ONE singular decision that puts you in the clear "good parent" or "bad parent" camp. There are 10,000 little decisions each day. How can I say that I am a more conservative (i.e. "mommier than though") for not letting Bratz in my house when my daughter owns a pretend makeup kit at the age of three? What is the difference? None. It has to do with comfort level and almost my immediate visceral response. I think that this is how we were raised. I was never permitted to wear black, high heels, or animal prints. And although I was asked my freshman and sophmore year, I was not permitted to attend prom until my Junior year. On the other hand, my mom caved after my incessant begging and took me to see "Where the boys are" when I was in Ninth grade (a very raunchy movie about college Spring Break). There is no manual that says, It's o.k. to let your daughter highlight her hair in Ninth grade, but not eighth.

We are all just winging it. Hell, at least this group of parents is thinking about it and trying to do the right steer things in the right direction. If you all find that parenting manual which spells it all out, lemme know.

Kelly

[PrincessFiona]

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Kelly, That's why I love it when Luanne chimes in. She has BTDT and survived to offer the hope that despite all of the issues, they'll turn out OK. Thomas and I are realizing that our biggest obstacle is US! We make these decisions/rules (like Amanda not being able to get her ears pierced until she turns 12 this week) because it gives us some sort of a feeling that we are in control of her growing up...that she will be "ok" if we just adhere to some set of ideals. When things go wrong, like grade issues, social problems etc. we freak out not just because we love our kids, but because we are afraid that their lives won't turn out ok.

Maybe that's what is also behind some of this "my kids don't watch TV, no BRATZ, no Barbie, no HSM...." etc.

I don't know....