Early onset of sassiness

[houseelf]

Alright, I'm going to get a little un-PC, but in my experience (n= 3), my daughter was a much harder as a toddler and preschooler than my boys. Seriously, not even a comparison.

I was really worried. I read books, talked to the pediatrician, once even talked to a child psychiatrist outside of her presence. She was crazy smart and crazy emotional. IRL, I have a very looooow threshhold for drama. I just don't put up with histrionics, so this didn't go over well. I cried,second guessed myself, talked about it to others, sought advice, worried, etc.

Fast forward to 9. She is my easiest going child and we have a great relationship. I nip anything over dramatic in the bud and refuse her to engage in society's put down/sass culture. She's my buddy.

I have no expectations for the teenage years. It could be heaven or hell. She could surprise me either way.

I guess what I am telling you is that ride this out but don't think that this is a sign of things to come. In our household, the female had a harder time learning to reign in her emotions as a young child which led to sass, power struggles, and tantrums. YMMV.

Good luck!

[Vishenka69]

So there's hope? I had lunch today with a friend who is going through same with her 3 yr d daughter. We started drinking at 1pm and I'm almost done for today.

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[Ladybug]

Three is my least favorite year…every.single.time. I would skip three altogether if I could. DD1 is about to turn 10 and I'm starting to see more emotional eruptions, drama, meltdowns (some of it is just a personality component with her though) but it's still so much easier for me to set emotional boundaries with her at this age than it was a three. Three was a nightmare with my first daughter. I did not handle it well at all. Now she can go to her room and shut her door…and I'm really OK with that.

[Vishenka69]

Oh yes, the door slamming. I'm so over 3. I will have to join AA if it doesn't get better at 4.

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[Cleave]

Carrie Contey has some great suggestions -- she's the cofounder of Slow Family Living and a PhD.. Some of the stuff doesn't feel right for my style, but I've also used a number of her practical suggestions with my kids with great success (my 3-year-old Does Not Want to take off his PJs and put his clothes on in the morning -- narrating his getting dressed like a color commentator worked wonders). www.carriecontey.com Good luck!

[Thirteen]

Oh yes, the door slamming. I'm so over 3. I will have to join AA if it doesn't get better at 4.

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My mom took my sister's door off the pins for that.
YMMV.


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[spotty_dog]

Carrie Contey has some great suggestions -- she's the cofounder of Slow Family Living and a PhD.. Some of the stuff doesn't feel right for my style, but I've also used a number of her practical suggestions with my kids with great success (my 3-year-old Does Not Want to take off his PJs and put his clothes on in the morning -- narrating his getting dressed like a color commentator worked wonders). www.carriecontey.com Good luck!

Cool, sounds like Playful Parenting. And pretty much in line with what our parent educators teach us through the cooperative preschool we're in.

[poky]

My mom took my sister's door off the pins for that.
YMMV.

Yeah, I had that happen to me; I think I was closer to 10 or 12, though.

[Vishenka69]

Thanks for all the suggestions.

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[Cleave]

Cool, sounds like Playful Parenting. And pretty much in line with what our parent educators teach us through the cooperative preschool we're in.

I didn't know there was something called Playful Parenting, but yes, Contey is all about play. Our mornings are so much smoother when I can incorporate some play into them.

[spotty_dog]

I didn't know there was something called Playful Parenting, but yes, Contey is all about play. Our mornings are so much smoother when I can incorporate some play into them.

Dr. Lawrence Cohen? His book is a classic. I recommend it -- I should re-read it myself.

[Mrs. MD, Esq.]

Yeah, I had that happen to me; I think I was closer to 10 or 12, though.

After it happened to my brother, the mere threat of it was enough to have me apologizing/backtracking if I "accidentally" slammed mine...

[HouseofWool]

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[TulipsAndSunscreen]

Um, what happens when it happens before age 2?

DH: ok, you can have pasta but please take two more bites of broccoli
DD: no, one only. I'm too full.
DH: baby, I said two
Dd: that's nice. I said one

DH: you can have one chip
Dd: no, I want a couple
DH: how does she know these words? "Couple? Lots? A little?"
Dd: (smirking) a few?

OMG.


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[Phoebe]

Um, what happens when it happens before age 2?

DH: ok, you can have pasta but please take two more bites of broccoli
DD: no, one only. I'm too full.
DH: baby, I said two
Dd: that's nice. I said one

DH: you can have one chip
Dd: no, I want a couple
DH: how does she know these words? "Couple? Lots? A little?"
Dd: (smirking) a few?

OMG.


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We got similar behaviors going on with DD4. She is 21 months.