Curious about a Muslim perspective on dating???

[diggitydot]

I didn't get the impression that there was a pointed passive-aggressive sling being slung and even thought I'm not totally on board with the author, I get her points. I disagree with some of her assertions, but that diesnt detract from the validity of her views.

I don't think teen dating (from most parents' perspectives) is all about letting their teen have sex, sex, sex, all the time. I cringe everytime I find out someone got heir kids a hotel room for prom. It's just freakin' prom!

I think it's more about teaching your teen how to appropriately deal with situations they've never encountered. DD1 is way more savvy than I was at her age, but she's also much better at standing up for herself and others. That girl doesn't mess around when someone is disrespectful. She'll drop friends or a boyfriend like a rock for being a tool.

[Momo]

She'll drop friends or a boyfriend like a rock for being a tool.

THAT'S invaluable!!!

[Momo]

BTW here's cool blog that may or may not be of interest or help to us:

http://blogs.modestlyyours.net/modestly_yours/

[Thirteen]

Thank you for the perspective and insight, S! I'm always curious to know what others outside of myself think about stuff like this. I have my own backstory, as I think everyone does, that has shaped my perspective, but I'll save that for another time.

[SoonerTexan]

Sounds very similar to the Catholic view of sex my parents actively promoted. We all got "the talk" from a Catholic point of view, and were provided with plenty of books, etc. for any questions we had. I'm so glad my mother did that for us--it shaped who I am today and how I approached dating, marriage, and sex. I had my 17 year old boyfriend listening to a tape series on the Theology of the Body.

We never had any formal age restrictions on dating, but we were all very...picky? about who we chose to date. I was the earliest dater at 15 (which was pretty much a long distance relationship for the majority of my high school years that turned into my current marriage), my brother started dating at 16 (still dating the same girl at 19), and my sister has just begun dating at 21. Other brother hasn't dated anyone at 17, and 12 year old sister isn't dating anyone (and would not be allowed to), but I'm sure she has her "crushes" here and there.

[Pollyanna]

LOVE LOVE LOVE the article Suz!!!! Her description of cotton swab in the ear VS true, really good sex is awesome! Thanks for sharing!