When being the hardass parent bites you in the butt

[DCJenn]

There's nothing near Palmdale except Antelope Valley Community College (where the good dawkter got not one but two AA degrees. Why? No one knows)

USCB is a great sciences school- Rick transferred there after the aforementioned AVCC degrees. Two other friends in the 'hood went there, too (odd- yes) one is a PhD Epidemiologist and the other is a Political Science professor with an emphasis on geo-politics. and it's on the beach, that's for sure...

J.

[DCJenn]

PS- I guess you'll be sending your daughter to Maryland to have that dad take the girls? I'd say from Radford in VA all the way up to Boston...

[diggitydot]

Oh I'm so sorry to hear that.

Pullman makes me all itchy. Not because if allergies, just because of pure dislike.

My dear little bro went to football camps there and I had to drive over and back to pick him up----- torture!

I'm kind of half joking. The town next to ours is the hillbilly hell. Ours is smaller (about 2,400 people), but we have most of the professionals in the county. It's not bad, at all, and that's even in light of the fact that I'm in no way a fan of all things redneck or redneck adjacent.

[peggyfromwastate]

Lol!!!

She already went there--- they were supposed to go to NYC but strangely it didn't happen. They did go to Georgetown to hang out with a friend who's doing a summer program there.

Oh well........

Seriously I won't throw the other dad under the bus bc I know my dd and this is the kind of shit she does. She volunteers me for stuff. Earlier she said "why can't we go this week?" Whine whine whine-- the kids had camp this week so I said we couldn't go. Then she hatched the plan to have her friend stay another week so that we could go the week when I didn't have things planned!! What a problem solver!!! The friend changed her ticket--- and the convo went something like this.

Dd: "My mom says we can't go this week because she has camps for my brother and sisters. But the next week we don't have any plans."

Friend: "ok. I'll call my dad and tell him I need to change my ticket to stay an extra week. That way we can go to SoCal."

Then they told me AFTER she'd changed her ticket and while I was packing for our camping trip.

I said--- that is so expensive to change your ticket. Why didn't you ask me first? And she said that her dad thought it was important for her to look at film schools in SoCal while she had the chance.

So I can see how this happened---- but my dd just doesn't get it.

She thought they'd do a day trip. And, you know, check out 4 colleges and maybe swing by San Diego for kicks. Geography is lacking. And we just took a trip to SoCal in June and my dd was complaining about how far away it is. ?

I can't really get into it with her right now. So we will just go and make the best of it.

But if she develops an interest in a school in Boston or upstate NY, I'll just send her to DC with a list of colleges she needs to check out. Lol. In the winter. Boston is so close to DC. Right?? Bwahahaha.

[Thirteen]

Take them to UCSB, drop them off on campus and head directly for the first open winery you can find.

J.

Also a distinguished film program, like USC.


I know you aren't mad, but that's a hell of a lot to ask from another parent of multiple children.
Driving from where you are to LA is no picnic.

They may want to re-think taking the bus. Seriously... :/


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[peggyfromwastate]

Clearly I'm not a hardass when it comes to ruining the plans of my dd--- I try to appease all concerned parties. But I am a hardass for behavior issues--- and that's why these parents feel safe and comfortable to send me their children.

Mydd managed to find the one chink in my schedule--- the one little tiny crack that wasn't filled with activities. And she slid right in there to claim that spot. I haven't seen her all summer really bc she was gone working at a camp--- so I am probably a huge sucker to go along with this plan but that's ok. I just want her to start thinking future and this is the first time she's actually taken any initiative in the whole college search.

Cautionary tale to those of you with younger kids!!!!! Try to find the disciplinarian in your kids social circles, then make any request your kid has contingent on whether or not the hardass mom says it's ok for her kid. Just try not to be the hardass mom-- bc then you might get roped into chaperoning. FOREVAH!!!

[peggyfromwastate]

Also a distinguished film program, like USC.


I know you aren't mad, but that's a hell of a lot to ask from another parent of multiple children.
Driving from where you are to LA is no picnic.

They may want to re-think taking the bus. Seriously... :/


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They will take a bus from UCLA to USC. It's not too far and I think involves 1 transfer. The friend navigated DC and NYC alone frequently, and my dd can get around DC and SF now too. They have enough big city knowledge to get by. But in the traffic of LA, those 20 miles between UCLA and USC will be SLOWWWWW.

[SoonerTexan]

Hugs. And wine.