Transportation

[PrincessFiona]

Your bosses reaction is juvenile. But on some level I can understand her quandary as a business person too. Most of her patients probably want to come in the afterschool hours so you not being able to work then souls be very problematic. Really we just need better systems in place or to adjust the school schedule to meet the realities of modern working parents.


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I understand her too. I really do. This is her business.


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[PrincessFiona]

Amanda is going to pick up the kids through December. I have until then to quit or find a new job.


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[TulipsAndSunscreen]

Or get Thomas on board to pay enough to get someone to drive her. I guarantee you if you paid enough a local college or even older high school student would do it.

Have you put out feelers in local mom Facebook groups (anyone have a teen who wants gas money?)


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[PrincessFiona]

Or get Thomas on board to pay enough to get someone to drive her. I guarantee you if you paid enough a local college or even older high school student would do it.

Have you put out feelers in local mom Facebook groups (anyone have a teen who wants gas money?)


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I was offering $15 for a high schooler to pick them up at bus and drop off at home. Total time=10 minutes. Maybe I need to offer more.


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[Ladybug]

How far is the walk? DD13 walks home from the bus stop each day, it's 1/2 mile, rain, shine or snow. DH drives her there in the morning (pick up at 6:30) and she walks herself home. She's never put up a fuss. It is what it is. If you think it's safe (and if they're walking together) I would let them walk. They sit all day long. Is it practices you're trying to juggle? It's hard to find reliable help and I pay her $18 hour (she also babysits, laundry, dinner, cleaning, plants and organizes my house). She retired from her school job. At least if you're paying more (Thomas can kick in) you can ask for more help (tutoring, laundry, cleaning, cooking) and reduce your stress a bit. I think most people need a certain amount of hours guaranteed. Can you throw a wider net (income/hours) and see what pops up. You can get more help then too.

[TulipsAndSunscreen]

Uber. Or there are driving services for women/teens. Seriously that's a thing.


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[JDAZ11]

Uber. Or there are driving services for women/teens. Seriously that's a thing.


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I noticed a lot of black cars picking up from the camp at the private school down the street from my parents this summer - even some with car seats in the back... they all had little sign with last names, so I know they weren't just mom's with black suburbans. So apparently that is totally a thing now. It will probably end up costing more than $15/day though. Maybe not though depending on distance. Worth looking into.


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[Meenah]

Yes, Uber!!

[PrincessFiona]

I went to the uber website. They show our town but it was not possible to book a ride.

Anyway, Amanda is picking them up. I assumed that I can't book uber because there are no local drivers. As for January, my guess is I won't be working then.


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[Meenah]

How about becoming an Uber driver!!!!! Just kidding, but that would probably be less stressful than your boss.

[PrincessFiona]

How about becoming an Uber driver!!!!! Just kidding, but that would probably be less stressful than your boss.

I bet it would be. I thought I would have a chance to be happy after everything we went through. Boy was I wrong.


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[TulipsAndSunscreen]

Do you really think Thomas will not help if he realizes that for a difference of $20-30/day, he will make you so unhappy? Will he go to counseling with you to try and work this out?


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[PrincessFiona]

Do you really think Thomas will not help if he realizes that for a difference of $20-30/day, he will make you so unhappy? Will he go to counseling with you to try and work this out?


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He won't pay. To be fair, Thomas paid for my masters in molecular biology. He pays for our 3 oldest to attend college and our two youngest to go to private school. We are low on cash. Thomas does not believe in counseling.


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[alotofyarn]

He won't pay. To be fair, Thomas paid for my masters in molecular biology. He pays for our 3 oldest to attend college and our two youngest to go to private school. We are low on cash. Thomas does not believe in counseling.


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I think the "he pays" is what is frustrating for me. We don't have his money and my money, we have money that both of us contribute to the family, as well as non-financial contributions. It doesn't matter who gets paid more, we make decisions as a family. I make most of the money right now and don't have any loans, and I certainly don't plan on holding J responsible to pay back all of his loans alone before he can spend money on things that he wants or needs, especially when it comes to things that affect his everyday happiness so much or our kids.

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[PrincessFiona]

I guess I expressed it badly. But tbh I don't contribute much financially. I pay my student loans and give our older children a small amount of cash. He does look at my career choice/choice to study as a failure as I'll only be able to pay student loans for 9 more years. That being said, he is considering using his small bonus in October to pay off consumer debt so that he can help with my student loans ... He's not a bad guy. The kids just cost a fortune and he's frustrated.


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