What we like about a medical relationship...

A medical relationship is challenging, we all know that. And often I find that I concentrate on the negatives. So I thought I'd start a discussion about the positives...especially because most of the time it's harder for me to see! When I find I think about positives about my relationship with my bf, they have to do with him and me, and not him being in med school, but I'm going to give it a try!

-I love seeing my bf studying something he's passionate about. It inspires me to follow my passions also.
-I'm proud to say that my bf is a med student. It's a profession I respect and admire.
-My parents are thrilled that my bf is a med student. This may sound superficial (and is in many ways), but my dad's a doctor too.
-Independence is something I've always had trouble with, but am striving towards. Being w/ my bf, I've had to embrace and enjoy my independence and this is making me a stronger person.
-If I do end up marrying my bf, we will (someday) make a comfortable income together.

That's a start! I hope you will all add on!

Sharon

[DCJenn]

Hmmmm-

I enjoy the fact that people can ask my husband questions about their children and he can answer them.

I also appreciate that he loves what he's doing. Not too many people can say that!

I also like the whole military lifestyle and as I've said, there's nothing better than a doctor in uniform!!

Jenn

[Auspicious]

There's something sort of inherently fascinating and exciting about medicine (which is probably why there are so many television shows about doctors and hospitals), so I enjoy hearing him tell me about his days much more than I probably would if he were an accountant or computer programmer or something else that's only interesting if you're deeply involved in it yourself. With a significant other in medicine, you certainly get a lot of good stories.

** I love telling my kids that Daddy is helping people get better.

** I am so proud of my husband for following his dream and not going through life wondering "What if ...." He was told by the undergraduate pre-med director that he would never become a doctor and that he should consider something else. Russ graduated valedictorian of his med school and that is an incredible accomplishment to me and a great example for our children not to quit on your dreams.

** There is job security and a good chance to make a decent living (once all the debts are paid!!!)

** Having a husband who can fix the kids without hauling them to the doctor for everything!

** Free pharmaceutical stuff!!!

Robin

[mommax3]

I am very proud of his hard work in med school and especially in residency.

I love it when women come up to me and tell me how comfortable they are with him as their doctor.

It was great to have an in-house specialist during my pregnancies! I knew I would never get sent home from L&D for not being in labor, because I knew when I walked in how far I was dilated, etc.

Someone else in our house is an expert in dealing with messes that involve bodily fluids of any kind without gagging -- provided he is home when the mess occurs.

I am confident that I will never HAVE to work and that gives me a wonderful feeling of freedom.

After we are done with the military, we can look for jobs wherever we want -- it is wide open.

Really nice thread!

Sally

--I love how smart and serious my husband is
--I love when he tells me about others docs complimenting him on his work
--I love hearing the stories of his patients and how he feels about them
--I admire the strength he has to be able to get through years of training and long hours to reach his goal
--I love being his support system
--I love how cooking helps him unwind :!:
--I love how he cute he looks in his scrubs and in his white coat
--I love dreaming about how in a few years he will start making a decent salary and we won't have to worry so much about money

-I must agree with you, Jenn, there is nothing like a doctor in uniform(my dh was a Naval General Medical Officer)

-I am impressed with how my dh is able to keep his cool in stressful situations

-I gained so much more respect for my dh when I encountered a patient referred to my employer (Cardiology group). The patient was referred because a murmur was detected by my dh on a physical exam. I performed the echocardiogram and as a result of the echo, the patient had surgery. When he returned to our office, he told me someone in the office mentioned I was his primary care provider’s wife and he told me personally that my dh saved his life because he discovered the murmur!

Talk about a collaborative effort! I must say that I have looked at my dh in a new light from that moment on...

[Rapunzel]

I love being able to "play doctor" with a REAL doctor.

[SueC]

I have to agree about the scrubs and white coat--my hubby looks pretty darn handsome in his.
This might make me sound wierd, but I like hearing him talk "medicine" when he is returning pages. I'm sort of from the medical field, so I can decipher some of it but it amazes me that he knows so much right off the top of his head and seems so confident when advising a resident over the phone or calling in orders for one of his patients.

[Auspicious]

Bump for Pinja.