Hi All,
I am so happy to have found this site. I am engaged to a MS2 who is currently in the last few intense weeks of studying for his Step 1's. We have been together for 7 years and will be married this November. I moved to Philadelphia in July after two years of doing the long distance thing. I am so happy that we are finally in the same place but I am starting to feel the pressures of being in love with a future Dr. You all know the story I am sure. Never being home, when he is home he is exhausted or worried about the next exam, his boards, where is 3rd Year rotations will be etc.
I know it is only going to get more intense...so I am especially happy to have found this group now. The move to Philadelphia has been especially difficult because we have no family near by at all. I am from the Caribbean originally and my family is there, and his family is in FL. We have friends from college scattered up and down the East Coast, but I am starting to realize that I am in a very different place than a lot of my girl friends, most of whom can not imagine getting married at 25. I work really long hours and have yet to make many friends out side of his med school class.
Some days are good, some days are a lot harder. We have been pretty good at not taking our relationship for granted. Being apart for 2 years helps that. We rented a 2 bedroom apt so that he could have a study place to be at home more, I cook a lot and trys to be home for dinner most nights even if it means bringing the study group home with him. But the reality of his situation is that he must spend most of his time reading, studying or at school or the hospital, leaving me to my own devices much of the time. I am by nature not a very jealous person, I feel like it is a waste of time and energy, but lately I have found myself jealous about so many things; the girls in his study group, the time he spends at the library etc, having a group of people that are all going through the same ups and downs.. I hate that I feel this way, I know that there isn't any merit to it, but I can't help it.
I skimmed the boards a little before posting and the idea of the non-medical partner in the relationship being threatened by the intellectual/professional development the other partner is going through hit home. I am not so much threatened by it, but I do find myself questioning my intelligence from time to time. Even though I have always excelled academically, I wish that I could find something that I was so sure about that I would be willing to dedicate so much time and energy to perfecting the art of it.
Anyways I am not sure what I am hoping to find here, support I guess. A group of people that I can vent to and hopefully they will understand. It is only in the last couple of weeks that I have realized that there are things about our realtionship that I can't really explain to any one else that doens't have a significant other pursuing a career in medicine. Most of my friends just see him being in Med school as a ticket to wealth and security.
I am so proud and in love with my boyfriend and I know that we will make it through all of this together, and knowing that this fourm is here will definetly help.
Thanks
SMP
I am so happy to have found this site. I am engaged to a MS2 who is currently in the last few intense weeks of studying for his Step 1's. We have been together for 7 years and will be married this November. I moved to Philadelphia in July after two years of doing the long distance thing. I am so happy that we are finally in the same place but I am starting to feel the pressures of being in love with a future Dr. You all know the story I am sure. Never being home, when he is home he is exhausted or worried about the next exam, his boards, where is 3rd Year rotations will be etc.
I know it is only going to get more intense...so I am especially happy to have found this group now. The move to Philadelphia has been especially difficult because we have no family near by at all. I am from the Caribbean originally and my family is there, and his family is in FL. We have friends from college scattered up and down the East Coast, but I am starting to realize that I am in a very different place than a lot of my girl friends, most of whom can not imagine getting married at 25. I work really long hours and have yet to make many friends out side of his med school class.
Some days are good, some days are a lot harder. We have been pretty good at not taking our relationship for granted. Being apart for 2 years helps that. We rented a 2 bedroom apt so that he could have a study place to be at home more, I cook a lot and trys to be home for dinner most nights even if it means bringing the study group home with him. But the reality of his situation is that he must spend most of his time reading, studying or at school or the hospital, leaving me to my own devices much of the time. I am by nature not a very jealous person, I feel like it is a waste of time and energy, but lately I have found myself jealous about so many things; the girls in his study group, the time he spends at the library etc, having a group of people that are all going through the same ups and downs.. I hate that I feel this way, I know that there isn't any merit to it, but I can't help it.
I skimmed the boards a little before posting and the idea of the non-medical partner in the relationship being threatened by the intellectual/professional development the other partner is going through hit home. I am not so much threatened by it, but I do find myself questioning my intelligence from time to time. Even though I have always excelled academically, I wish that I could find something that I was so sure about that I would be willing to dedicate so much time and energy to perfecting the art of it.
Anyways I am not sure what I am hoping to find here, support I guess. A group of people that I can vent to and hopefully they will understand. It is only in the last couple of weeks that I have realized that there are things about our realtionship that I can't really explain to any one else that doens't have a significant other pursuing a career in medicine. Most of my friends just see him being in Med school as a ticket to wealth and security.
I am so proud and in love with my boyfriend and I know that we will make it through all of this together, and knowing that this fourm is here will definetly help.
Thanks
SMP
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