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Hi, I'm Julie. My boyfriend finished his PhD at the beginning of August, moved in with me in the middle of August, and started med school at the end of August. I've actually been lurking on the board for several months in preparation for our big "transition into the medical world," and I can't begin to tell you how helpful it's been to me.
Our relationship started looking potentially permanent right about the time that he was going on med school interviews, and I come from a background where pretty much every adult I knew worked 9 to 5. I was feeling pretty lost when I realized I'd fallen for a guy who was involved in both medicine and the military--two worlds I knew almost nothing about and didn't even know whom I could ask. I had a vague idea that residency was a killer and that there were rumors that doctors have high divorce rates, but that was about it. I finally said to him, "I know that people DO this--that there are people happily married to doctors, but I just know nothing about HOW they do it. What are their lives like? What's important to making that situation work?" Plus, since I'm 27 and he's 31 and he's starting med school now, if we want to have kids the old fashioned way somewhere down the road, it's probably going to have to be before he's done with training. The thought was more than a little daunting. And then I stumbled upon this board within a few days, and all the issues that had been whirling around in my head were being discussed by others, and I felt much better. It's amazing how things work out that way.
Since then many of our conversations about the future have included the phrase "Well on the medspouse board they say . . ."
Anyway, he's safely in med school now and things are going fairly well, so thanks for all your advice so far, even if you didn't realize you were giving it.
Julie
Our relationship started looking potentially permanent right about the time that he was going on med school interviews, and I come from a background where pretty much every adult I knew worked 9 to 5. I was feeling pretty lost when I realized I'd fallen for a guy who was involved in both medicine and the military--two worlds I knew almost nothing about and didn't even know whom I could ask. I had a vague idea that residency was a killer and that there were rumors that doctors have high divorce rates, but that was about it. I finally said to him, "I know that people DO this--that there are people happily married to doctors, but I just know nothing about HOW they do it. What are their lives like? What's important to making that situation work?" Plus, since I'm 27 and he's 31 and he's starting med school now, if we want to have kids the old fashioned way somewhere down the road, it's probably going to have to be before he's done with training. The thought was more than a little daunting. And then I stumbled upon this board within a few days, and all the issues that had been whirling around in my head were being discussed by others, and I felt much better. It's amazing how things work out that way.
Since then many of our conversations about the future have included the phrase "Well on the medspouse board they say . . ." Anyway, he's safely in med school now and things are going fairly well, so thanks for all your advice so far, even if you didn't realize you were giving it.
Julie
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