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Hi everybody! Boy, am I glad to have found this Board....

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  • Hi everybody! Boy, am I glad to have found this Board....

    I guess I should introduce myself. My name is Dures and I am currently dating Jay, a 4th year medical student. He & I are presently in a long-distance relationsip I'm working FT + going to MBA school in CA, while he is in med school in PA. We've been dating since right after his 1st year of med school and all of my Business school time. (I"m in my 2nd and final year.) So we've been together a little over two years now.

    I love him dearly and he is my best friend. We've talked about getting married between his first and second year of residency. But an LDR - esp. one involving an MD or soon-to-be MD - can be such a struggle. We've definitely had our ups & downs. For example, we've both been under the stresses of school and work - even more so lately. I barely got to talk to him in the final three weeks before he took Step 2 Boards. (He took them a few weeks ago.) It would've been nice to study together or just be "there" for each other as we both stress out. He's already submitted his applications for residency. He wants to go into Neurology, which is an Early Match. This means he's got to have his Match List submitted by Jan 22,2003 and Match Day for them is January 31, ; so now he's prepping for interviews. (Big Sigh.) Will the work never end?

    Well, I'm rambling now; so I"ll stop. From all the posts, it sounds as if everybody is just sooo supportive and encouraging. I"m going to really like it here. I don't know how much advice I can give to you "seasoned" veterans, but I"m looking forward to just lending an ear or giving support.

    Take care everybody

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    Welcome to the boards! I'm not in a LDR but it's still hard to find the balance. Are you going to be able to follow him for his match?

    Michele
    Mom of 3, Veterinarian

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    • #3
      Hi There!

      Well, the one benefit of a long-distance relationship is that internship year isn't so bad! My husband was gone for 9 of the 14 months that we dated during his 3rd and 4th year. So, when we got married and moved for internship- it was great! Everyone else was miserable because they never saw their spouses- but I saw mine more than I ever had!

      Just a different perspective for you!

      Welcome to the boards-

      Jenn

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      • #4
        Hi,

        I definitely agree with what Jenn said. I was used to only seeing Brian once every month or so until he moved here for med school. Even though he's always busy it's still great to see him for even a little bit everyday.

        I take it you've been doing the long distance thing for a while from what you wrote in your first post so you two must be doing something right! I think that being busy helps, although I know it's frusterating when you can't seem to get your schedules in sync to talk or visit as much as you'd like to.


        Good luck to both of you!

        Kate

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        • #5
          First, let me say how jealous I am that you are in Southern California!
          I'm living in a very cold place for my dh's residency.

          With that aside, welcome to the boards! Many a member here has survived the long distance relationship. It isn't ideal for a relationship, but hey, what is? Anytime that you want to vent, you have found the right place. You will be sure to find someone going through or who has been through the exact same thing.

          Take care,

          Kelly
          In my dreams I run with the Kenyans.

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          • #6
            Hi

            Hi Dures,


            Welcome to the site.


            Rachel

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            • #7
              Hi Dures!

              Welcome to the community! Glad that you found us as well. This place is extremely encouraging and supportive and I think you'll find that it will take some of the stress off you to have people who truly understand what it's like to go through.

              BTW, Which school is Jay attending in PA? My boyfriend is at Temple.

              I'm looking forward to hearing more from you!

              Sharon

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              • #8
                Thank you to all for the warm welcome

                I'm really glad to have found this supportive board. Be forewarned - as I will probably be posting quite alot.
                Sometimes, I still find it difficult to maintain an LDR - let alone one with a med student. I feel at times as if I"m the one carrying most - if not all- of the load of our relationship. So I have to keep reminding myself that it's what he does for a career and not because he's "neglecting" me. Anyway, glad to have found this Board and I look forward to getting to know all of you

                Dures

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