Hello, I am so relieved to find a community out there that understand what my husband and I are going threw. Whew. What a challenge. We moved to San Francisco just this past June, from Chicago. Finally the boxes are unpacked, the cat made it out, and my job is finally starting next week. It has been wonderful to have some time off from my job, however I am very excited to get into my own routine.
Wondering if anyone can offer some advice. My husband is in his first year of ENT (intern year) and is hating it. He is exhausted and stressed. His first four months (two nearly down!) are supposedly the hardest of the year (currently finishing out his month of nights). Initially, he was worried that he was not cut out to do medicine. After my gentle reminders of our massive loans and his commitment to the field (four years med school, two years trying to get into med school, now a move across the country!) and the wide variety of specialties in ENT and in medicine, he has now changed his worries to changing residency programs to radiology. He feels that he will be better suited for "shift work" and not dealing with the uncertainties of patient care. Honestly I don't care what he does, however prolonging residency beyond the original five years seems like torture....I mean come on enough already!
Sorry, this is long. I am just not sure how to handle this. I really feel he is just stressed and overwhelmed and feeling out of control. I feel that once he gets past these first few years he will have control and be able to make it what he want. Does this sound unsupportive?
Oh, so stressful.
Anyways, thanks for being out there.
Wondering if anyone can offer some advice. My husband is in his first year of ENT (intern year) and is hating it. He is exhausted and stressed. His first four months (two nearly down!) are supposedly the hardest of the year (currently finishing out his month of nights). Initially, he was worried that he was not cut out to do medicine. After my gentle reminders of our massive loans and his commitment to the field (four years med school, two years trying to get into med school, now a move across the country!) and the wide variety of specialties in ENT and in medicine, he has now changed his worries to changing residency programs to radiology. He feels that he will be better suited for "shift work" and not dealing with the uncertainties of patient care. Honestly I don't care what he does, however prolonging residency beyond the original five years seems like torture....I mean come on enough already!
Sorry, this is long. I am just not sure how to handle this. I really feel he is just stressed and overwhelmed and feeling out of control. I feel that once he gets past these first few years he will have control and be able to make it what he want. Does this sound unsupportive?
Oh, so stressful.
Anyways, thanks for being out there.
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