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Welcome to the boards!
Welcome to the boards!
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Danielle
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WELCOME!!!
Flynn
Wife to post training CT surgeon; mother of three kids ages 17, 15, and 11.
“It is our choices, Harry, that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.” —Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets " Albus DumbledoreComment
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Glad you're here!
Laurie
My team: DH (anesthesiologist), DS (9), DD (8)Comment
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Hey hey!
There are a lot of good ideas around here for "rekindling" and even "desperately clinging to sanity" in medical relationships.
May you find some good friends here
Wife to Family Medicine attending, Mom to DS1 and DS2
Professional Relocation Specialist &
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Hey Dave-
Does SHE think she's depressed and depressing? Is she on meds? Does she think therapy is great for 'everyone else' (aka the infamous physician who won't heal themselves?)
Is this a new behavior?
and finally, dude- how old is she if you've been married to her for 20 years. If she's over 40, let me encourage you to find and read the October 2008 issue of MORE magazine. I made my husband read it to- The article is "Your Chill-out Perimenopause Checklist". Whew. What a relief to find out that in fact, I AM insane, grouchy, completely uninterested in sex OR totally oversexed, I'm gaining weight the way I used to be able to lose weight AND it's 100% hormonal.
Apparently the big thing is NOT menopause- it's Perimenopause and it wreaks havoc for up to 10 years.
Jenn
(it was that article that let me discover that in fact a subsection of Perimenopausal women get Cold Flashes instead of hot flashes which made me feel so much better as i was warming my hands on metal bars when it was 100 degrees outside)Comment
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No real advice, but wow - this is what DH said to me a couple years ago. For me, though, there was something specific that I was unhappy about, and once that was finally resolved, everyone said I became a different person. Do you know if there is anything specific that is making her unhappy?Originally posted by DavetheDedicatedComment
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Agreed with both the sage Ladybug and the clearly perimenopausal DCJenn.
If she's stressed out, maybe reducing the pressure to "salvage the relationship" right now would be a better move than amping it up. That could just push things over the edge. Maybe have a conversation about what you are feeling (use those great "I" statements) and then a re-assurance that you want to fix things - followed by the plan to take a break from worrying about this for a few weeks and let it all sink in. Honestly, women DO worry about the state of their relationships and if things are going bad she probably has concerns and stresses about this too. I'd try to reassure her that you are in this together and relax the pressure a bit.
But....what do I know? :huh: Good luck. Don't panic.
Angie
Gyn-Onc fellowship survivor - 10 years out of the training years; reluctant suburbanite
Mom to DS (18) and DD (15) (and many many pets)
"Where are we going - and what am I doing in this handbasket?"Comment
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I don't have great advice like the above posters, but I wanted to say:
And, is your avatar/picture from Chaucer's Canterbury Tales?Event coordinator, wife and therapist to a peds attending
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no great advice but a big
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Welcome to the site...post often!
Good to see/hear another male voice around here...Comment
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Where did Dave go?
It says his name is gone...Wife to Family Medicine attending, Mom to DS1 and DS2
Professional Relocation Specialist &
"The Official IMSN Enabler"Comment
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