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Hi! I am new to IMSN. A little background . . . I went to law school in California and graduated in 2005. I moved back to my home state - Alabama - and practiced law there until June 2010. I also met my husband in Alabama, and we were married in 2009. Ironically, he was accepted to a medical school in California, so I'm back on the West Coast again.
It has only been one week since his classes started, but I can already identify with so many of the posts. I am unemployed at the moment, and although I do have some law school friends scattered about, they live in different cities and are pretty busy with their own families. I am trying not to sit at home having a pity party - I have joined a gym, looked for volunteer opportunities, searched for jobs, explored my local town, and, like another poster, dabbled on Craigslist. I used to be fun, involved, and interesting in my former life. Now, I'm feeling a bit lost, crazy, sad, frustrated, vulnerable, stupid (did I just give up my career?), worried (about the future), and confused (what happened to the spouse I knew?). And it is only the first week!
At the same time, I want to be supportive of my spouse because I know he is stressed too. I also knew this is what he wanted to do when we got married and gave him my full support. In other words, I signed up for this.
I now realize the issues popping up now are ones we are going to have to manage/deal with for the next few years, and possibly the rest of our lives. So, I really appreciate others sharing their experiences and giving advice on how to manage/find time with your spouses as I do not know anyone else in a similar situation. This forum may just save me.
P.S. I don't want to come across as being negative. I just did not know what to expect, and this week has been challenging. I am encouraged that so many of you have been through this and survived!
It has only been one week since his classes started, but I can already identify with so many of the posts. I am unemployed at the moment, and although I do have some law school friends scattered about, they live in different cities and are pretty busy with their own families. I am trying not to sit at home having a pity party - I have joined a gym, looked for volunteer opportunities, searched for jobs, explored my local town, and, like another poster, dabbled on Craigslist. I used to be fun, involved, and interesting in my former life. Now, I'm feeling a bit lost, crazy, sad, frustrated, vulnerable, stupid (did I just give up my career?), worried (about the future), and confused (what happened to the spouse I knew?). And it is only the first week!
At the same time, I want to be supportive of my spouse because I know he is stressed too. I also knew this is what he wanted to do when we got married and gave him my full support. In other words, I signed up for this.
I now realize the issues popping up now are ones we are going to have to manage/deal with for the next few years, and possibly the rest of our lives. So, I really appreciate others sharing their experiences and giving advice on how to manage/find time with your spouses as I do not know anyone else in a similar situation. This forum may just save me.
P.S. I don't want to come across as being negative. I just did not know what to expect, and this week has been challenging. I am encouraged that so many of you have been through this and survived!
Another lawyer here. There are lots of us. We've all BTDT. This is very well articulated. Welcome!
and nice to meet you! An attorney here too - just gave up my job when we moved for residency.
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