Hello/Introduction

[JDAZ11]

Thank you all for welcome messages! Apparently I am not at all alone in dealing with this horrible in-between life phase!

I had a very nice (and social) weekend, and am a little less bummed about living here today (although really looking forward to my trip home!)

[Thirteen]

Welcome!

[Bittersweet]

Welcome! Enjoy your trip home.

[Mrs. MD, Esq.]

Believe me, being a part of this group will help. Honestly, I didn't think it would at first...but everyone here is so supportive and amazing, it makes things so much better. My DH was shocked how supportive of a group this is. Hang in there, it WILL get better -- and enjoy your trip home! It's just as important and helpful to keep those strong bonds with friends and family that don't live close to you!

[JDAZ11]

Thank you I am glad to know that the grp was so helpful, it has been nice to vent to people who know what this feels like! I keep trying to remind myself that things really are not that bad, there are lots of great things happening in my life right now - and so I need to focus more on those

[reciprocity]

welcome! condolences for graduating law school into this market.

I'm a biglaw associate, but I lateraled over from a small firm a few years ago. Let us know if there's anything we can do to help!

[JDAZ11]

Wow - lots of Lawyer/Dr couples here! This really has made me much less alone (already)!

It was a terrible time to graduate! But I actually think maybe a little better than last year, so I suppose it could be worse

reciprocity is a fantastic username! very fitting!

[reciprocity]

it is my fervent hope that we will never actually be a lawyer/dr couple (as I plan to cease lawyering before she starts doctoring), but we'll see where we're at in 2.5-3.5 years...

[JDAZ11]

and if you can, avoid telling them that your df is in fellowship!

Btw - tried this recently... reaction was quite hysterical. Rather than explain the whole story, I just said that DF took a job at X hospital. Follow up Q was, "oh what does he do?" I said, "he is a Dr"... "oh, what kind of Dr?" After telling her, she laughed at me and asked me why I needed to work. HA!!! WTF... I can't win.


Yesterday I poked around the education/career board for a bit. Lots of good info on there - thank you all!

[JDAZ11]

it is my fervent hope that we will never actually be a lawyer/dr couple (as I plan to cease lawyering before she starts doctoring), but we'll see where we're at in 2.5-3.5 years...

Sounds like a very good plan!

[diggitydot]

...asked me why I needed to work.

Ugh, I hate that shit. Whether you need to or not is immaterial. Most peeps don't understand that residents/fellows don't make jack, regardless of how fancy their program sounds.

[MrsK]

I usually say something like, "he's a resident - so he works long hours and is paid very little." Most people understand that.

[diggitydot]

I just try to avoid the whole damn conversation.

[JDAZ11]

I am so used to saying that he is a resident (obviously I got used to it... his residency lasted FOREVER), so I wasn't ready for her reaction. It would have been all good if the convo had ended with "DF took a job here, so we moved." But it didn't, and since I was trying to avoid bringing up the fact that I would likely be leaving soon - I guess I just figured I would leave the fellowship thing out... lesson learned

I just laughed back and said that I wasn't quite ready to retire... AND we have some SERIOUS student loan debt - hahahaha not so funny anymore lady, is it! She actually turned out to be friendly and even a bit helpful after talking to her a bit more. But if anyone has some advice on how to avoid this convo all together I'd love to hear it! I've been very unsuccessful at sidestepping the issue since we moved here (before we moved very few people asked what he did, I guess there I actually had a life - so most people would talk to me about that, lol).

[scrub-jay]

I've heard (from someone around here): "He's house staff at the hospital." Not a lie, but most assume janitor. Or - a friend of mine just says: My dh works nights at the hospital with patients. Most assume nurse or tech since she emphasizes "with patients" ...