Hello/Introduction

[JDAZ11]

I've heard (from someone around here): "He's house staff at the hospital." Not a lie, but most assume janitor. Or - a friend of mine just says: My dh works nights at the hospital with patients. Most assume nurse or tech since she emphasizes "with patients" ...

Will try both and see how it goes! Thank you!

I can't remember ever asking anyone (especially in a professional/networking type situation) what their spouse does.... I guess maybe it's the whole moving thing that invites the inquiry.

[diggitydot]

The house-staff thing works REALLY well.

[scarlett09]

Welcome!

I totally feel you on the job situation! I graduated in the spring and I'm still looking! I really think the economy has had a major impact on what's out there. I hope something comes along soon!

[MrsPotts]

I'm late - but welcome!

[JDAZ11]

thank you both! And scarlett09, sorry to hear you are in a similar situation... graduating during a down time isn't much fun!

It's only been a few months since I started dating a doc, and I don't know how many comments I've gotten about his financial situation (too many nosy people in the world). Um, he makes less than everyone else at the hospital and he's got 300 grand in loans. I barely get to see him and our relationship has consisted of two minute phone calls and random texts. I hate how so many people judge without knowing all the facts.

[JDAZ11]

I agree - but in that particular case I was somewhat to blame... since I was attempting to leave out many of the facts. But it actually is a funny phenomenon and one that I really didn't really encounter before we moved. oh well.

Sorry you don't get to see your SO very often at the moment! DF and I definitely went through some stretches where we didn't see each other very often - and also at the beginning of our relationship.

Thank you It's so great to see that the weirdness in our relationship is actually normal when you've got a SO who is a resident! All of your posts make me feel a lot better although I wish we all didn't have to go through these relationship difficulties. But what can you do when you love 'em?

[JDAZ11]

Thank you It's so great to see that the weirdness in our relationship is actually normal when you've got a SO who is a resident! All of your posts make me feel a lot better although I wish we all didn't have to go through these relationship difficulties. But what can you do when you love 'em?

It certainly isn't the best situation, but it is what is - lots of people have non-medical jobs and have crappy hours too! Looking back I actually had a pretty good time during that phase of our life - I worked a lot, but I went out all the time without him and it was a blast, lol. I'm happy I get to see more often now (although he is actually standing me up tonight and it looks like I need to go meet these people we made dinner plans with alone! so maybe it never really changes all that much, you just get used to it .

JDAZ, I got stood up too! I'm just trying to breathe and remind myself that it's not personal. It's not personal...It's not personal...

[JDAZ11]

JDAZ, I got stood up too! I'm just trying to breathe and remind myself that it's not personal. It's not personal...It's not personal...

Sorry to hear that! Even though it isn't personal, it is usually disappointing and annoying! My DF did eventually show up (albeit still in scrubs, which he never does). And thank goodness, it ended up just being me and one guy for about an hour. It was a little too first date like - pretty awkward!!

[HeyMeganZ]

welcome, welcome! I love that you said lots of people with non-medical jobs have crappy hours too!!! There have been a LOT of nights I've been working later than my husband, and on average - my hours are worse than he and his friends (although more predictable and normal than medical hours).

[JDAZ11]

welcome, welcome! I love that you said lots of people with non-medical jobs have crappy hours too!!! There have been a LOT of nights I've been working later than my husband, and on average - my hours are worse than he and his friends (although more predictable and normal than medical hours).

I think NYC tends to have particularly bad hours across the board (so jealous that you are there! I love this time of year in nyc).

[HeyMeganZ]

Is the warm weather worth it? How was your transition leaving the city??

[JDAZ11]

Is the warm weather worth it? How was your transition leaving the city??

The warm weather is nice... now, but this summer was pretty horrible... very horrible actually!

I would say that overall I am not that impressed with my transition, lol! I ignored it at first since I was frantically study for the bar, but once that was over I had time to miss it. I think the driving has probably been the biggest adjustment. It's still weird to me that I hop in my car anytime I want to go somewhere. We also had a huge social network there (lots of high school, college, med/law school friends there for both of us), and that is something we both miss a lot (and is kind of irreplaceable - but many of them were starting to leave also). We actually miss our tiny apartment sometimes too - which I think is so weird.

But it is really beautiful here - just very very different. Lots of easy access to outdoorsy activities, which we thought was kind lacking before, even though we really enjoyed running in CP and along the river (I do really miss CP - almost every day). But the cost of living is WAY lower here, which is a nice perk. There were a lot of things I was so sick of in the city - I tend to ignore them now, but I think in many ways it was time to leave (it's just hard, the city can really become part of you).

As much as miss it, I'm not sure I could go back now. I'm interested to see how I feel after I go back for a visit.