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Brand new here. I'm the soon to be wife of a nontraditional DO student finishing up his first year. In terms of school and stress, the first year has honestly been a breeze, and I think we've been really lucky. For me, though, I'm stuck in a city I absolutely hate for another year until we can escape for rotations. (Then the real "fun" begins...) I work from home -- I'm so fortunate to have a remote job that I can take with me anywhere we end up, but it means I don't have coworkers nearby. I work, I work out, I do a ton of cooking and all the household stuff, I read, I video chat with my best friend back home, and I probably talk to my cats a little too much, but every once in a while the isolation and the stress of not being in control really gets to me. Now is one of those times.
Like someone who commented earlier on, I get so sick of hearing all the negativity about how med school will destroy your relationship, about the divorce rate for doctors (a lot of this coming from his school!), etc. My FH is so well-balanced with life and school, he's getting great scores and still manages to spend lots of time with me, and he wants to go into a primary care field, not something ultra-competitive. I'm not worried about our staying power, but I am a little worried about my own mental health along the way, and I wish instead of spewing a bunch of gloom and doom, the school would offer a little support for students with spouses. Wishful thinking. So I'm here.
My latest stress is realizing that we're going to be moving in one year for rotations, and we don't yet know where that will be, or even really how the whole process works. We need to end up doing most rotations within a major metro area so that we don't have to move constantly. We have grown-up furniture and two cats, and I need a home base and an office. Not to mention I need to be back in a major city where I don't feel so isolated. So we're just not up for moving every couple months. We may have a couple choices of city, but in one of them (our top choice) FH may end up being responsible for setting up some of his own rotations. I have no idea how this works, and the school hasn't told them much about it yet. Advice?
So, I'm living with a lot of uncertainty, planning a wedding for this summer, and trying to stay sane. Sorry for the novel! I'd love to hear from others who have been in a similar situation. Thanks everyone!
Also, I'm confused by the forum setup. L. Jane told me I should post a new intro thread, but the only thread I can see under "Introductions" is the one titled "Welcome". I'm getting the impression there should be lots more. Help?
Brand new here. I'm the soon to be wife of a nontraditional DO student finishing up his first year. In terms of school and stress, the first year has honestly been a breeze, and I think we've been really lucky. For me, though, I'm stuck in a city I absolutely hate for another year until we can escape for rotations. (Then the real "fun" begins...) I work from home -- I'm so fortunate to have a remote job that I can take with me anywhere we end up, but it means I don't have coworkers nearby. I work, I work out, I do a ton of cooking and all the household stuff, I read, I video chat with my best friend back home, and I probably talk to my cats a little too much, but every once in a while the isolation and the stress of not being in control really gets to me. Now is one of those times.
Like someone who commented earlier on, I get so sick of hearing all the negativity about how med school will destroy your relationship, about the divorce rate for doctors (a lot of this coming from his school!), etc. My FH is so well-balanced with life and school, he's getting great scores and still manages to spend lots of time with me, and he wants to go into a primary care field, not something ultra-competitive. I'm not worried about our staying power, but I am a little worried about my own mental health along the way, and I wish instead of spewing a bunch of gloom and doom, the school would offer a little support for students with spouses. Wishful thinking. So I'm here.
My latest stress is realizing that we're going to be moving in one year for rotations, and we don't yet know where that will be, or even really how the whole process works. We need to end up doing most rotations within a major metro area so that we don't have to move constantly. We have grown-up furniture and two cats, and I need a home base and an office. Not to mention I need to be back in a major city where I don't feel so isolated. So we're just not up for moving every couple months. We may have a couple choices of city, but in one of them (our top choice) FH may end up being responsible for setting up some of his own rotations. I have no idea how this works, and the school hasn't told them much about it yet. Advice?
So, I'm living with a lot of uncertainty, planning a wedding for this summer, and trying to stay sane. Sorry for the novel! I'd love to hear from others who have been in a similar situation. Thanks everyone!
Also, I'm confused by the forum setup. L. Jane told me I should post a new intro thread, but the only thread I can see under "Introductions" is the one titled "Welcome". I'm getting the impression there should be lots more. Help?
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