I posted on here a short while ago. My husband was accepted into a fellowship in minimal invasive surgery this past July. We were living apart April-July because his last rotation was in a hospital further away than the others and they provided an apartment for residents. I moved back home so we didn't have to pay rent during those months and maintain our apartment. Turns out he was cheating on me those 4 months. He slept with a med student in his hospital while he was their chief surgery resident. I am devastated and destroyed. He threw it all away for some strange pussy. I found out after we moved in together in the new city where his fellowship was. I decided i couldn't live the rest of my life with a person with so few morals and principles. We are getting a divorce and i am making the painful, lonely journey back to normalcy. This break has let me focus on myself and get back to my career. He confessed when i tried to snuggle with him and he pushed me away. I was hurt by his lack of affection and the general lack of love in our relationship this year, but never thought it would amount to cheating. I thought he was stressed and depressed and i wanted us to try counselling and i wanted to bring him back to how he used to be. I trusted him too much. While a part of me now wants revenge, i completely understand this this is a stage of grieving and this too will pass.
I am however concerned for hiw work and the people that work around him. This is not the first time i've been alarmed with his lack of respect for women. He has previously brushed aside complaints from his female interns when they complained of sexual harrassment from others working under him. He did nothing as their chief to help them and previous bosses were not impressed with his work. He left the old hospital without blessings from senior surgeons. He now works at a women's hospital and i am wondering if my concern for his co-workers is well founded or fuelled by revenge. I asked other surgery residents who were friends with us if they noticed what he was up to when i was away and they are just as shocked as i am. Please help me. I am confused, hurt and in pain. I don't want to take away his work from him because i supported him get to this point for the last 7 years. I guess i outgrew my usefullness. He told me that she was hotter, and he was able to talk medicine with her. (we never had problems discussing his work the last 7 years). His is a classic case of narcissism. I recognize all the signs now. I know that this will catch up to him at some point. Karma is supposed to come back, right?
I am however concerned for hiw work and the people that work around him. This is not the first time i've been alarmed with his lack of respect for women. He has previously brushed aside complaints from his female interns when they complained of sexual harrassment from others working under him. He did nothing as their chief to help them and previous bosses were not impressed with his work. He left the old hospital without blessings from senior surgeons. He now works at a women's hospital and i am wondering if my concern for his co-workers is well founded or fuelled by revenge. I asked other surgery residents who were friends with us if they noticed what he was up to when i was away and they are just as shocked as i am. Please help me. I am confused, hurt and in pain. I don't want to take away his work from him because i supported him get to this point for the last 7 years. I guess i outgrew my usefullness. He told me that she was hotter, and he was able to talk medicine with her. (we never had problems discussing his work the last 7 years). His is a classic case of narcissism. I recognize all the signs now. I know that this will catch up to him at some point. Karma is supposed to come back, right?
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