Hi everyone,
I am a girlfriend of an orthopedic resident. We have been dating for two years but have been struggling a lot recently. I am having a really hard time dealing with his second year. He is miserable and keeps pulling away figuring since it is too hard to be happy he might as well seek comfort in his misery...after all isn't that what residency is about.
As of last night, he said that he just could not continue our relathionship. He felt like I deserved more and he just had no energy to give me. He said he still loves me and it is not about another woman but he just feels that if he is unable to prioritize me/us than he must not respct/love me the way he used to.
I think that all of this is a load of crap! I think that he is giving up and not thinking about reality. I know he loves me I just wish I could prove to him that committing to us would make his life more balanced and happy.
Have any of you been through this type of situation. More particularly, has anyone broken up during residency only to end up together in the end? I would love any advice/support.
Thanks...this website is an answer to my prayers.
I am a girlfriend of an orthopedic resident. We have been dating for two years but have been struggling a lot recently. I am having a really hard time dealing with his second year. He is miserable and keeps pulling away figuring since it is too hard to be happy he might as well seek comfort in his misery...after all isn't that what residency is about.
As of last night, he said that he just could not continue our relathionship. He felt like I deserved more and he just had no energy to give me. He said he still loves me and it is not about another woman but he just feels that if he is unable to prioritize me/us than he must not respct/love me the way he used to.
I think that all of this is a load of crap! I think that he is giving up and not thinking about reality. I know he loves me I just wish I could prove to him that committing to us would make his life more balanced and happy.
Have any of you been through this type of situation. More particularly, has anyone broken up during residency only to end up together in the end? I would love any advice/support.
Thanks...this website is an answer to my prayers.
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