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I came here three years ago because of the isolation of being a Physician's wife. After being here awhile here I realized that there were really not a lot of people in my same situation.
After yet another "bombshell" in my circle of friends I thought THIS is the best place for me.
My situation:
Married for several years to a obsessive workaholic (translated: very dedicated Doc.. balance is not in his vocab). I am very proud of the physician my husband is, He has won many awards and is very respected and loved.
I have known my husband since high school we are now in our 40's and yes we have a 5 and 2 y/o (God has a sense of humor).
My husband is a solo practioner. His practice is insanely busy he is able have other solo docs cover for occasional nights off.
We have acheived financial success. With several homes, cars and "things" I even cringe as I typed that because ....yes we have achieved it but it has not been without sacrifice and to tell you the truth I would trade all of it to have him not work so much. He can't stop he loves it and I truly believe he would lose himself completely if he did not have his work.
Friends: Yes I have them, hubby doesn't really have time to nuture friendships (you know an occasional call and get together). Talking about this to friends..I get the " you have everything" speech. Or " Your husband is gorgeous, successful, has $$ and he adores you"
I guess you can say "I have it all" so why do I feel alone all the time?
Why did it make me cry when my older son thought his fathers name was "Bye Bye Daddy"? or this past year at his preschool Christmas show
while doing his performance he noticed his father in the aduience and instead of singing he was pointing and yelling "There he is...that's my daddy" like no one believed he really had a daddy.
See this board seemed to be geared to those who are starting out medical school, residency, fellowships, the financial hardships etc...
Yes those are all trying times...But the is another side to this.. yes the "perks" are there BUT so are disappointments. I thought for a while that this was MY problem as time went I realized that it kinda is my problem. I am NOT OK with just being a Physician's wife and being able to "shop" at leisure. Most of the physicians wives I know perfer this to their husbands company. I thought it was because I needed more for myself. So I run the business part of the practice (I have a business and an RN degree) out of my home. Working with my husband was not a great thing he is a wimp with the employee's (24 of them..we have 3 offices). That created a problem with our different management style. I eventually hired managers and moved to my home office.
The one other Physician wife (friend) That I knew that felt the way I did eventually foud out her husband was having an affair and fathered a child with the OW. She has 3 young son's and is now divorcing him. Her husband had too much free time and hobby's that did not include her.
So here I am typing taking up a lot of board space and most of you cannot even fatham where I am at. I know I am lucky, I know I have a wonderful man that loves me and even though there are a lot of affairs in medicine this man has stayed faithful. I do count my blessings.
I guess I just need the normal type support you know what to say to collegues wives who hit on my H (yes it does happen) or nurses who call my home and talk down at me because they assume I am JUST a SAHM.
The normal stuff..
So Hi .. Glad to meet you all again !!
edited: to see If I could fix the yukky spacing
I came here three years ago because of the isolation of being a Physician's wife. After being here awhile here I realized that there were really not a lot of people in my same situation.
After yet another "bombshell" in my circle of friends I thought THIS is the best place for me.
My situation:
Married for several years to a obsessive workaholic (translated: very dedicated Doc.. balance is not in his vocab). I am very proud of the physician my husband is, He has won many awards and is very respected and loved.
I have known my husband since high school we are now in our 40's and yes we have a 5 and 2 y/o (God has a sense of humor).
My husband is a solo practioner. His practice is insanely busy he is able have other solo docs cover for occasional nights off.
We have acheived financial success. With several homes, cars and "things" I even cringe as I typed that because ....yes we have achieved it but it has not been without sacrifice and to tell you the truth I would trade all of it to have him not work so much. He can't stop he loves it and I truly believe he would lose himself completely if he did not have his work.
Friends: Yes I have them, hubby doesn't really have time to nuture friendships (you know an occasional call and get together). Talking about this to friends..I get the " you have everything" speech. Or " Your husband is gorgeous, successful, has $$ and he adores you"
I guess you can say "I have it all" so why do I feel alone all the time?
Why did it make me cry when my older son thought his fathers name was "Bye Bye Daddy"? or this past year at his preschool Christmas show
while doing his performance he noticed his father in the aduience and instead of singing he was pointing and yelling "There he is...that's my daddy" like no one believed he really had a daddy.
See this board seemed to be geared to those who are starting out medical school, residency, fellowships, the financial hardships etc...
Yes those are all trying times...But the is another side to this.. yes the "perks" are there BUT so are disappointments. I thought for a while that this was MY problem as time went I realized that it kinda is my problem. I am NOT OK with just being a Physician's wife and being able to "shop" at leisure. Most of the physicians wives I know perfer this to their husbands company. I thought it was because I needed more for myself. So I run the business part of the practice (I have a business and an RN degree) out of my home. Working with my husband was not a great thing he is a wimp with the employee's (24 of them..we have 3 offices). That created a problem with our different management style. I eventually hired managers and moved to my home office.
The one other Physician wife (friend) That I knew that felt the way I did eventually foud out her husband was having an affair and fathered a child with the OW. She has 3 young son's and is now divorcing him. Her husband had too much free time and hobby's that did not include her.
So here I am typing taking up a lot of board space and most of you cannot even fatham where I am at. I know I am lucky, I know I have a wonderful man that loves me and even though there are a lot of affairs in medicine this man has stayed faithful. I do count my blessings.
I guess I just need the normal type support you know what to say to collegues wives who hit on my H (yes it does happen) or nurses who call my home and talk down at me because they assume I am JUST a SAHM.
The normal stuff..
So Hi .. Glad to meet you all again !!
edited: to see If I could fix the yukky spacing
Jennifer
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