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    Instant Relief

    Hello everyone

    Thanks to whomever had the idea to set up this forum. I know everything is to be found on the World Wide Web so instead of continuing my late-evening medical-partner depression bout I googled 'medical spouse' and there you all are!! I wish I had more contacts with the spouses of my partner's colleagues, but it's just not happening right now. I am happy to meet you guys, if virtually.

    My partner is in 3rd year of med school and I am a PhD student. He is currently into his General Surgery rotation (which explains the late-evening medical-partner depression bout abovementionned). We are in Canada. We have been together for just over a year (living together for about 9 months now) but I can't say I didn't know what to expect. I had many friends who were medical students and residents before. It's just that the surgery rotation is hitting at full speed right now, and my naturally anxious partner is driving the two of us outright crazy.

    I also happen to be a sociologist so thankfully I can rationalize a lot of that's happening, but it doesn't stop it from being hell.

    So thanks for setting this up, and I look forward to mingling with you guys in the other threads!!

    Grog (I know my handle is confusing - I'm female, in case you wonder)
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    Welcome aboard!! I, like yourself , Googled, found the site and couldn't sign up fast enough. Unfortunately their were some glitches in the system and it took a few days to get me on here...WOW! This site has been a huge sanity saver!!!!

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    • #3
      Welcome, we seem to be having a Canadian run lately.
      Wife to NSG out of training, mom to 2, 10 & 8, and a beagle with wings.

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      • #4
        Welcome. May you find some solace! This place is a life saver. I'm also currently going through the "Your stress is stressing me out." thing right now. I'm exhausted with it. But don't worry. We are all here to listen!!

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        • #5
          Nice to have you! We've got a lot of Ph.D. types around here. You'd think we'd be smart enough to not marry a doctor, huh?

          I look forward to getting to know you.
          Angie
          Gyn-Onc fellowship survivor - 10 years out of the training years; reluctant suburbanite
          Mom to DS (18) and DD (15) (and many many pets)

          "Where are we going - and what am I doing in this handbasket?"

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          • #6
            Welcome! I know the relief you felt when you found the site. And we really have been having a run on the Canadians!

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            • #7
              WELCOME!!! I, too was a PhD student while my spouse was in med school. However, I think that having my own accademic dramas/stressors/activities is what helped me not feel so alone while he was gone for 30+ hrs. at a time. He has said that it also reduced his anxiety/sometimes guilt knowing that I "was doing my own thing" while he was away. Then again, that was with no kiddos. Kids add many more "variables" But I digress.....WELCOME, WELCOME. This site has been instrumental in keeping my sanity.
              Finally - we are finished with training! Hello real world!!

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              • #8
                Welcome!

                Cool, another Canadian. The former British colonies are certainly becoming well represented w/ Australia, Ireland (The Republic of...), India and Canada. (and of course, the US.)

                We're glad to have you.

                Jenn

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                • #9
                  Hello again new friends!

                  I knew of course I was not alone in my boat, but it's good to see it confirmed!!!

                  It's good to read that I'm not the only fool doing a PhD either. It is indeed good to have a "thing" of my own - I can't imagine not having that, though, I've always been a very busy woman with some sort of research or policy work - but it would be great sometimes to be able to explode about my own drama and not to get two minutes of listening and then... "I gotta hit the books." I know he genuinely supports me though, more than any man or, for that matter, person I've ever been close to. I've been in situations where my boyfriend was not half as busy as my partner now is, and much less caring. So when I think about that it helps.

                  However right now I'm working on my comps and... well, I'm bored. I very much look forward to being in the field doing interviews and observations again, I will feel better about myself then. Reading theory all day is just numbing.

                  Momof4: My PhD is in a faculty of education, but I'm actually doing sociology of science. I am doing a PhD... on the training of PhD students!! In the past I have had some interest in medical training, that's probably why I feel all the dumber sometimes for putting myself through that perfectly well knowing what would happen to me!!! Thankfully, my partner is very sweet and caring, and I know what he's like when he doesn't have exam stress on his shoulders.

                  Anyways! Thanks for your warm welcome! I look forward to joining more discussions! I have asked for access to the 'private' forums, I hope to see you there!!

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                  • #10
                    Welcome!

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                    • #11
                      Welcome! Looking forward to getting to know you.
                      Cristina
                      IM PGY-2

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                      • #12
                        Welcome, from one Canadian to another

                        Feel free to Pm me anytime!

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                        • #13
                          Welcome!!

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                          • #14
                            WELCOME!!!!!
                            Flynn

                            Wife to post training CT surgeon; mother of three kids ages 17, 15, and 11.

                            “It is our choices, Harry, that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.” —Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets " Albus Dumbledore

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                            • #15
                              Welcome! You've found a great group.

                              Jodi

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