b.c vs a.c

[PrincessFiona]

[Vishenka69]

I'm not sure that was the message. Was that the message?

I thought it was develop a thicker skin (which wrinkles less) and charge forward with your opinions. If you get your toes stepped on, remember we still love you - even if you choose to wear toe-baring Birkenstocks. :> Call me at the convent for further clarification.

Do I have to love the Birks or can I hate them if as long as I like the person wearing them? Can nuns wear Birks?

[PrincessFiona]

Message received. I'll avoid all child-related discussions going forward.

Absolutely not...but...ummmm.... ...I may when your time comes and you start dealing with the same issues I have. It's a sad testament to my mental health, but it's honest.

And hey...others have popped popcorn to watch when I was up-to-bat. I think Kelly is among them! I never had a picky eater, so I convinced her that she could get Cade to eat his veggies by making it a game...peaball, etc. It of course didn't work and Kelly felt a tad frustrated and perhaps put down by me.

When Aidan was horribly picky, Kelly pretty much announced "hold on, let me run to the microwave" "oh, ok...tell me all about it"

I hate being humbled like that. Can I apologize again, Kelly?

[Sheherezade]

You can hate the Birks. But only because I don't wear them.

And you can tell me what you'd do with my kids Lily....as long as I get to remind you about it when you have your own.

[alison]

I don't think it's necessary for the childless ones to feel left out.

At the risk of offending more than one person, I'm going to just go out and say it: I think we've got the better end of the deal. It takes 1/4 of the time to leave the house, less than 20 seconds to get into the car, and you can hear a pin drop in the house. And yes, that was a wink!

[PrincessFiona]

Are you winking at me....I think you're winking at me.... :>

[alison]

You nut!

[PrincessFiona]

[Vishenka69]

If we're gonna go around calling each other nuts, I'd like to pick which nut I want to be. I call hazelnut.

At the risk of offending more than one person, I'm going to just go out and say it: I think we've got the better end of the deal. It takes 1/4 of the time to leave the house, less than 20 seconds to get into the car, and you can hear a pin drop in the house. And yes, that was a wink!

Sure - convienence wise you've got it WORLDS better. I can see how a person working through infertility would be longing for the "baggage".

But I do agree w/Kris' other post in the call room. We need to all read things w/the idea that no one is actually trying to be offensive (95% of the time).

And as Lily said: I get annoyed here sometimes, but I also get annoyed IRL. At least I can close the website and get away from what's annoying me. But then I have to deal w/the annoying factors IRL ...

What to do! What to do!!

You know ... it's always been one of my favorite emoticons, but now that I know there is a backstory behind it, I just want to use it as punctuation!

[Rapunzel]

Message received. I'll avoid all child-related discussions going forward.

Absolutely not...but...ummmm.... ...I may when your time comes and you start dealing with the same issues I have. It's a sad testament to my mental health, but it's honest.

And hey...others have popped popcorn to watch when I was up-to-bat. I think Kelly is among them! I never had a picky eater, so I convinced her that she could get Cade to eat his veggies by making it a game...peaball, etc. It of course didn't work and Kelly felt a tad frustrated and perhaps put down by me.

When Aidan was horribly picky, Kelly pretty much announced "hold on, let me run to the microwave" "oh, ok...tell me all about it"

I hate being humbled like that. Can I apologize again, Kelly?

Oh

My

Goodness

This dates me - because I remember the posts on "pea ball".

[PrincessFiona]

Jenn...I even tried to SHOW Kelly how to play pea ball when she came to visit with Cade. I am such a bad friend.

[Rapunzel]

Jenn...I even tried to SHOW Kelly how to play pea ball when she came to visit with Cade. I am such a bad friend.

No, I remember thinking, "Gee, what good advice!"



I'm as much of a dork as you are!

Jenn...I even tried to SHOW Kelly how to play pea ball when she came to visit with Cade. I am such a bad friend.

oh dear. I don't know that pea ball needs a demonstration ... Kelly is a patient soul.

[Amiens]

So I haven't read through all 7 pages of this thread. The topic at hand has been on my mind, and I was trying to think of what to say.

I was catching up on Oprah- I TiVo it and then will select what I want to watch. Anyway, the episode I watched was 30-something women in America. A couple of things that were said that a profound effect on me, and helped me solidfy my thoughts for this topic.

One woman, a school teacher, who was in her early thirties is struggling with infertility, said the one thing she has learned in her thirties is empathy. She has learned that when someone comes to her with a problem that they necessarily don't want advice, but want validation.

I welcome advice from all sides of the issue. I may not apply it, but I will listen and take it into consideration regardless of their situation. Sometimes people outside of the situation maybe able to give insight that I might not be able to see. For example, when I had my messy house breakdown, a couple of people PM'd me and suggested I get a maid. I welcomed it, but I don't know if that is going to be the best solution.

The next thing that I really enjoyed was the final quote from Oprah-
"Whether you are single or married, Muslim or Latino, struggling to have a family or a mother of eight, there is a common thread that runs between us all- we all have the same desire to be valued regardless of where we come from or what we maybe going through, and to love the people most important in our lives."