Thread Locking

[Sheherezade]

Honestly, I think thread locking is just a way to say "Take it outside folks!" before it gets out of hand. I can see how it would be frustrating if you had something really good to say.....but I can never tell which way those things are going to go. Most of the time, these heated discussions just calm down, but when someone is obviously baiting others - and they are responding - it isn't easy to call.

Debate forum moves are a good idea. An administrator's call to calm things down might work as well -- but since most of the administrators participate in the discussions as members first, that can also be awkward.

Good point, Jenn.

Alison - were you really offended by the shoe discussion?

I wasn't offended; some of the comments rubbed me the wrong way, that's all.


I know, I know - I'm being silly!!

Not silly. I honestly wanted to know if you were offended. I didn't like some of the tone either, which is why I wrote "We're Loud! We're Proud! We're Comfortable!"

It takes all kinds, right??'

[alison]

PM coming your way, Jesher

Yes. Annie's post made me feel bad for posting/complaining. I guess since I'm not one of the usual "whine / they hurt my feelings" via PM to admins, that side of it didn't really occur to me.

Don't feel bad. I realized that we probably haven't stated any sort of thread locking policy so it was good to have an opportunity to explain. Or have Kris and Angie explain it (better than I could have ).

[Momo]

I just meant that poor Hedi's post about advice on a dress for the wedding she's going to attend, got hijacked and sprouted several pages of shoe discussions, which someone(admin) very nicely moved the shoe comments to their own thread, so that Heidi's post could get back on topic! In no way, shape or form did I mean to imply that there was some sorta broo ha ha in that thread!

[Meenah]

Agreed,Kris and Angie explained it better than I could. I really cannot believe how much porn I have deleted in the past month.

[Rapunzel]

1 - Wow on the amount of porn traffic on this site!!!

2 - I don't have any problem with threads being locked. It is a judgement call on the parts of moderators and I would rather have them policing things than not. ie I agree with Ladybug's original post.

I just meant that poor Hedi's post about advice on a dress for the wedding she's going to attend, got hijacked and sprouted several pages of shoe discussions, which someone(admin) very nicely moved the shoe comments to their own thread, so that Heidi's post could get back on topic! In no way, shape or form did I mean to imply that there was some sorta broo ha ha in that thread!

Right - I didn't see it as an arguement either. My "loud and comfortable" repsonse was my (hopefully) humorous way of saying "I care not if my feet look schlumpy to you - I'm not going to be in pain."

As for my earlier note about Alison and whether or not she was "offended" - I'll guess "irritated" was more the intended word (or at least how I felt) when it was suggested that we needed some sort of recovery plan. All along I was taking it in jest. I could truly not care less about what shoes people choose to wear.

[alison]

Yup, "irritated" is a good word. I truly believe it's not WHAT you wear, it's HOW you wear it. If you feel good about yourself in something, then isn't that all that matters? I hate to be so cliche here.

[Vishenka69]

I have to say that I was a little put off by the shoes discussion. It was the Birkenstock, granola-munching earth moms vs. Ugg/Weitzman-wearers. I didn't like the comment about shoes saying a lot about the wearer, because I don't think that's true. Don't we try to teach our daughters that outer appearance doesn't reflect inner beauty? Or are shoes another excluded from this? :>

I have no idea what you're talking about. My mom tought me that no self-respecting woman would wear Birks or any other comfortable shoe/clothing item or leave the house without make-up. To this day I have no tracksuite (or any pants with elastic waist that I would wear outside) and my idea of dress down is jeans and suede sneakers. And I feel naked without mascara. Talk about scared for life. :>

I have no idea what you're talking about. My mom tought me that no self-respecting woman would wear Birks or any other comfortable shoe/clothing item or leave the house without make-up. To this day I have no tracksuite (or any pants with elastic waist that I would wear outside) and my idea of dress down is jeans and suede sneakers. And I feel naked without mascara. Talk about scared for life. :>

We all have our crosses to bear ....

[Vishenka69]

Did you just wink at me?

[alison]

I have to say that I was a little put off by the shoes discussion. It was the Birkenstock, granola-munching earth moms vs. Ugg/Weitzman-wearers. I didn't like the comment about shoes saying a lot about the wearer, because I don't think that's true. Don't we try to teach our daughters that outer appearance doesn't reflect inner beauty? Or are shoes another excluded from this? :>

I have no idea what you're talking about. My mom tought me that no self-respecting woman would wear Birks or any other comfortable shoe/clothing item or leave the house without make-up. To this day I have no tracksuite (or any pants with elastic waist that I would wear outside) and my idea of dress down is jeans and suede sneakers. And I feel naked without mascara. Talk about scared for life. :>

My mom didn't teach me this. My mom's priority was making sure we got a good education.

(Edited to add: I didn't mean that to be offensive - I'm just saying that my mom didn't care about what she wore, what we wore, etc).

[PrincessFiona]

Hey...my mom is still freaked out by what I wear.

"Don't you have a diff. pair of shoes?"

yes, I have two pairs each of the same shoes in two diff. colors...brown and black.

"Aren't you going to put on make-up?"

no

"Are you really going to wear a black shirt? That is just not good for your complexion"



"Aren't you going to put on a coat"

No mom, lay OFF. I'm 36 years old already.



kris

[Vishenka69]

My mom didn't teach me this. My mom's priority was making sure we got a good education.

I completely understand. It wasn't until I started college that I realized it was acceptable to come to class immediately after rolling off the bed. Those were my most comfortable years.