"Soooo, when are you going to have babies?"

[Vishenka69]

I'm taking notes. :>

Even though we've been married 2.5 years, we rarely get asked this question. My parents never ask (because they had me at a relatively "old" age back then--and were annoyed themselves when they got asked), and my in-laws couldn't care less and we never get asked that question by random people. But I don't think I'd get too annoyed by it. I think sometimes it's just a way to make conversation when people can't think of much else to say.

I wish I was better at comebacks, too.

As Flynn mentioned a few pages ago, the Only Child question is one that really stings me. Sure, ask once if you will, but for God's sake, accept my answer. Don't keep pressing.

I think these sorts of insensitive probes particularly hurt people who want to please. I am, unfortunately, one of those. On top of all the fear and pain resulting from my first birth experience, I feel sad and responsible for letting other people down . When my MIL asked about having more (a month after giving birth, when I could still barely walk) and I explained that that was unlikely and gave her my reasons, her response was, "Oh, you can't do that to me!". TO ME???!!! Bloody hell, that pissed me off. I hate it when people thoughtlessly say things like: Oh, your daughter will be lonely without siblings/ Who will she play with/ It would be easier next time/ etc, etc.

Some insensitive people just don't realise how deep the pain may run, and that I'll probably go home and cry about their stupid comments later... Be warned, the rude questions don't stop just because you've had one.