Healing from the election

[diggitydot]

I'm sorry, but anyone who'd call me names because of something like political disagreements is someone I would no longer interact with, family/friends or not. Not because of a differing opinion, but because they're immature.

[GrayMatterWife]

The word respect is also pretty powerful. When someone says that they don't respect anyone who disagrees with them, it's pretty alienating.

To be very clear: I did not say that I do not respect anyone. I said that I do not respect certain reasoning--a big difference. I can respect a person but not respect their reasoning. Maybe this is a biproduct of my profession. I reject reasoning all the time but still respect the person and their reasoning efforts.

[PrincessFiona]

I know you didn't Abigial. I'm ... not an attorney though, so I think I hear things differently.

I don't respect the reasoning that leads someone to vote to Obama, but that does not mean I am angry at that person. I assume that no one is angry at me for voting for Romney, just because they don't respect or agree with the reasoning that lead me to that.

I actually do respect the reasoning that led you to your choice. I also respect the reasoning that led someone else her to choose Obama. I respect the reasoning that led Chris to vote libertarian. I don't necessarily agree with their vote, but I do respect their reasoning.

I think we're quibbling. I'll stop. I respect and like you and I share your anger and frustration....for similar and different reasons.

[GrayMatterWife]

the ones that equate the Republican party to God's party.

There is no way God is Republican. How could a god who gave us Boehner's tan, Bachmann's helmet hair, Christie's girth, and just everything about Rick Perry possibly be a Republican? He'd be using his own creation against his party.

[PrincessFiona]

LOL. OMG I just laughed so hard...

[GrayMatterWife]

I actually do respect the reasoning that led you to your choice. I also respect the reasoning that led someone else her to choose Obama. I respect the reasoning that led Chris to vote libertarian. I don't necessarily agree with their vote, but I do respect their reasoning.

For the record, I STRONGLY respect the reasoning (or what I suspect was the reasoning!) that led Chris to vote Libertarian. I've voted for that party before and can understand and see the logic and respect the conclusion. I actually respect that conclusion, in some ways, MORE than I respect my own conclusion that I should have voted for Romney. But I cannot respect the reasoning that led someone to vote in a way that I believe fundamentally undermines our country. But, again, it's not personal. You don't have to respect everything that someone does or everything that someone thinks in order to respect the person. I am not going to suggest that I respect a conclusion that I don't. But that has nothing to do with respecting the person. I respect anyone who is willing to think through an issue in an attempt to do the morally and ethically right thing. That effort is certainly worthy of respect, even if it results in a conclusion with which I happen to disagree.

[GrayMatterWife]

LOL. OMG I just laughed so hard...

Every time I see Boehner, I want to buy SPF 100. His smoking really does not help the overall image, either.

[PrincessFiona]

I always think of how his name would be pronounced in german ... and it would sound weird .. and then how the oeh usually is americanized into a long O sound....So everytime I see him, I think boner. I'm sorry. I can't help it. I think I have issues! LOL

There is even a youtube video to help all of us out there!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FcaSe9O-y04

[niener]

There is no way God is Republican. How could a god who gave us Boehner's tan, Bachmann's helmet hair, Christie's girth, and just everything about Rick Perry possibly be a Republican? He'd be using his own creation against his party.

[QUOTE=PrincessFiona;620703]So everytime I see him, I think boner.[ /QUOTE]

Me too. I must also be a 13 year old boy, but come on, it's just too easy.

[diggitydot]

I ALWAYS think Boner, partially because of his name, partially because he is a total boner.

That tends to be my line of thought, too.

[Pollyanna]

I don't know Tara ... I protect my right to feel hurt. LOL. I had a friendship really turn sour over my lack of support for the healthcare reform as it is. It's my opinion based on my own life experiences living in the UK and being married to a physician. I don't feel angry about her opinion. I'm just sad about the way that she expressed herself. Some of the things that she said were pretty hurtful to me. I'm trying to just understand her perspective so I can let go of that ick in the pit of my stomach. It wasn't about her not expressing herself in an intelligent way ... it was really the veracity of the opinion and distaste for mine.

LOL, Kris. You absolutely may protect your right to feel hurt. I know I am enigma but I really just don't bother with hurt feelings and I do my best to make sure my children don't either. Most people are not intentionally trying to be hurtful so to be hurt by their behavior would be wasting time in my life on a something that was created by my own feelings. If someone IS trying to be hurtful then maybe I need to reevaluate their position in my life and if they are a stranger then they have no position in my life anyway so why worry about it. I truly am only hurt by family members and even then I really try to analyze intent. Certainly DH has hurt my feelings in the past but he never intends to do so, while that does not necessarily excuse the behavior it does allow for more effective communication for us as a couple. Like I said, I'm an enigma but I do think women as a whole waste WAY too much time on feelings and snide comments rather then intelligent debate and discussion.

[PrincessFiona]

Well, thats part of why I adore you Tara. You always have awesomeness feedback!

[PrincessFiona]

Ha. That was autocorrect but I'm leaving it!

[Pollyanna]

Awww, thanks. See on occasion I do add more to the conversation than, "lets see about TomKat"