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kindergarten "red shirting"- again
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Random thoughts from Laurie... It seems like they're pushing academics earlier. I believe reading is expected about a year earlier than when I was in school, and they start math sooner. I wonder if red-shirting helps because it puts the kids at a more developmentally appropriate level of curriculum? Maybe the problem is too advanced expectations for many 5 year olds, and the rampant "gift years" are just a symptom?Laurie
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Originally posted by ladymoreta View PostRandom thoughts from Laurie... It seems like they're pushing academics earlier. I believe reading is expected about a year earlier than when I was in school, and they start math sooner. I wonder if red-shirting helps because it puts the kids at a more developmentally appropriate level of curriculum? Maybe the problem is too advanced expectations for many 5 year olds, and the rampant "gift years" are just a symptom?
Yes this. There is a lot of academic pressure in kindergarten now, especially in affluent areas.
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And sports is crazy too. My son is 7, and is going into his fourth season of baseball. He is built for sports (very tall and muscular) and enjoys it. But those kids who didn't play t-ball starting at 4 are already behind by the time they hit Little League officially in 1st grade. The same for swimming, etc.
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When I read this thread and others about preschools, camps and sports it makes me start freaking out that I'm not doing enough for my kid. I feel pressured to send him to K at five even though most people say to give him another year. I don't want him to be behind. On the other hand though I don't want him to be over-scheduled. I feel like I need to go get him signed up for soccer and make sure he's reading soon or he isn't going to get into college. I know this is only the beginning. If we hold him back it would be in hopes that he would be successful. I don't expect him to be a leader or him to be a sports superstar but I do want him to enjoy school and learn a love of physical activity and the joy of teamwork. I'm afraid of people thinking that it was done for him to get ahead. As far as I can tell there are not any state regulations that say he can't start kinder at six.
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Originally posted by civilspouse View PostWhen I read this thread and others about preschools, camps and sports it makes me start freaking out that I'm not doing enough for my kid. I feel pressured to send him to K at five even though most people say to give him another year. I don't want him to be behind. On the other hand though I don't want him to be over-scheduled. I feel like I need to go get him signed up for soccer and make sure he's reading soon or he isn't going to get into college. I know this is only the beginning. If we hold him back it would be in hopes that he would be successful. I don't expect him to be a leader or him to be a sports superstar but I do want him to enjoy school and learn a love of physical activity and the joy of teamwork. I'm afraid of people thinking that it was done for him to get ahead. As far as I can tell there are not any state regulations that say he can't start kinder at six.
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Married 20 years to MD/PhD in year 3 of MFM fellowship. SAHM to five wonderful children (#6 due in August), a sweet GSD named Bella, a black lab named Toby, and 1 guinea pig.
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kindergarten "red shirting"- again
My son was one of the youngest. Interestingly, many of the youngest in his graduating class are also in the top ten academically - but wouldn't be called "leaders". Leadership seems to get tied up in physical size and sport success here.
Random thought one: this seems to be a more suburban trend for us. Didn't happen at all in our Brookline neighborhood which was affluent but not sports crazed. Very common in our current affluent neighborhood.
Random thought two. Sports teams set up around birthdays and they don't necessarily line up with school ages. Kids like to be on teams with the boys in their own grade, so that's something to check in to.Angie
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I agree with Pollyanna. My boys played soccer early because it was fun and they enjoyed it....if that is the case for your son (or you think it might be), go for it. If you are on the fence about sending him to kindergarten, wait a year. I don't think you will be sorry.Wife of an OB/Gyn, mom to three boys, middle school choir teacher.
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Originally posted by Sheherezade View PostRandom thought two. Sports teams set up around birthdays and they don't necessarily line up with school ages. Kids like to be on teams with the boys in their own grade, so that's something to check in to.Wife of an OB/Gyn, mom to three boys, middle school choir teacher.
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DS #2 has a summer birthday -- it was our choice when we enrolled him in Kindergarten and we go to a public school. July birthdays are a judgement call for parents. We "red shirted" DS #2 for a variety of reasons.
Emotionally I didn't think he was ready -- academically he was fine. I totally LOVED the extra year with him and he did too. He thrived in preschool and we had a ton of time to bond together. It was a good choice for him. Additionally 98% of parents (got the stat from the district) "red shirt" out here.
We have a bunch of friends who sent their kids when they were 5. Four out of ten families then HELD THEIR KID back because they weren't above average academically (double doc families). Whatever. They jumped through all the hoops and paid for all the tests -- THEN the school let them hold their kids back based on the data. These families got an extra year of public school on the tax payers -- BUT they saved a ton in that year on daycare (which is why most of the people we know do it).
For us the only down side is for soccer. He has to play on a team that is U7 his first year. I'm not too worried about it. He's big and the youngest so he's a bit more worldly than that average Kindergartener. Other than that, there is NO down side for us. NONE.Flynn
Wife to post training CT surgeon; mother of three kids ages 17, 15, and 11.
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