With Matching in Mind...

[Vanquisher]

We don't have nearly enough info, I agree. Maybe she's as much as said she doesn't want to get married until _____.

Still, if you're in a committed relationship, you get a say. Married? Equal say.

[Rapunzel]

There's three ways to approach this in my mind:

1) They've been together a long time. If the boyfriend was a member here the consensus would be to agree he gets a say in the matter - even, perhaps, veto power.

2) I am so stinking tired of women having to pick up and follow wherever their male sig others go. Seriously - let's see a man have to do this every once in a while!

3) He has been dithering on engagement for how long? A year?? Issues - they gots them. Maybe they should call the whole thing off.

Yeah, I'm no help here.

[SoonerTexan]

Random thought. Working from home in a tiny NYC apartment sounds like hell, at least to me

[OrionGrad]

I did it for the last year of med school with no complaints. Lots of coffee shops to work from whenever our studio apt started to feel claustrophobic.
With kids would be a totally different story.

[SoonerTexan]

I thought about you after I posted that. I'm too spoiled. Even working from home in a 3 bedroom house can drive me crazy now!

[Meenah]

I just laughed out loud because I was wondering what she would say if she knew how many of us were thinking/ worrying about her!!!

[diggitydot]

Random thought. Working from home in a tiny NYC apartment sounds like hell, at least to me

That kind of sounds like my perfect set up.

[SoonerTexan]

Ugh but then if you have to VPN in or are dealing with spreadsheets, etc that is a PITA without a dedicated connection and a monitor. BTDT

[Sheherezade]

Me too DD. Give me a tiny place any day. I'm so over a big house.


Angie

[Cinderella]

That kind of sounds like my perfect set up.

Me too. I've pretty much stayed inside our 2 bedroom for over a year and feel the happiest I've been in a very long time. I could do this in the big city or anywhere really and it wouldn't make a big difference to me.

[diggitydot]

I find that as much as I hate people, I like larger cities. I can keep my anonymity, which isn't so easy to do in a tiny town where a good chunk of the population knows someone in my immediate family.

[Sheherezade]

That's pretty common. I found a lot more people with my introvert tendencies in big cities than I do in small town USA. When you walk out of the door here, it's kind of like walking on stage. It's a weird feeling and you have to be up to it. In NYC, walking to the corner was not a social event, very low risk of anyone engaging me in conversation. I think this is why people think NYers are "rude"; there are different rules of engagement.

[MAPPLEBUM]

That's pretty common. I found a lot more people with my introvert tendencies in big cities than I do in small town USA. When you walk out of the door here, it's kind of like walking on stage. It's a weird feeling and you have to be up to it. In NYC, walking to the corner was not a social event, very low risk of anyone engaging me in conversation. I think this is why people think NYers are "rude"; there are different rules of engagement.

From the many visits and short time that I lived there I know my style of communication is best suited in that town. I am always noticing how people are taken aback by my frank style of conversation. I used to think it was just southern pleasantries but it's the same, just a little different in the Midwest.