Britney Spears pregnant.

[Cumberland]

Maybe this belongs in the debate forum. OMG!!!!!!!!!!!! What is wrong with her and her "husband"????? I thought she was just looking portly from all the burritos she eats. Ok, I know I am being snarky here but stilll.

Spears

I agree, it may be good to put this in the debate area. I'll save my opinions till then.

Sad....

[SuzySunshine]

Sad is right, they just don't think at that age. She has fun with his kids and then decides she wants one of her own. Of course with famous people how much do they really take care of their own kids?

Sad is right, they just don't think at that age. She has fun with his kids and then decides she wants one of her own. Of course with famous people how much do they really take care of their own kids?

I had DD when I was 22, younger than Britney. It was a very well thought out decision, despite the fact DH and I were young.

[SueC]

How old is she? I think maturity obviously depends on the person--I was 25 which is young if I compare myself to my other mom friends, but is older than the national average. Britney Spears does seem really immature and not very grounded and acts more like a teenager than a grown woman.
I was absolutely disgusted that she was pursuing a man who had a child and another one on the way by another woman! I doubt that she actually had to "pursue him" so that probably isn't a good way to word it, but if I was single and met a guy that had recently gotten another gal pregnant, I would pretty much consider them off limits. Okay, I'll get off my moral high horse now!

[mommax3]

She just strikes me as such a lost child. She spent her teenage years as a tease and obviously hasn't matured much beyond that point. She doesn't strike me as being a genius, either. I really blame her parents to a certain point.....I can't imagine letting my baby girl (if I had one) be marketed in such a suggestive way as she was from the beginning!

Let the dysfunction begin..... (and believe me, I would LOVE to be wrong!)

I really think it depends on the person as far as what is too young to have a baby/get married/whatever. I had complete strangers tell me I was WAY too young to get married at age 21.....but almost 15 years later, I still don't agree.

Sally

[SuzySunshine]

Ok, maybe this should have been moved to the debates. I have very good friends that had kids when we were just out of high school, I don't have a problem with that. Britney spears could be 30 right now and I wouldn't think she was ready for a child. To many people do whatever they want without thinking out the consequences. In one year she will have been married twice and a new mom ??

Anyone else think"thank goodness THAT is over"? Hopefully this will pull her out of the idol arena for young girls.

[Meenah]

Or make them want to have babies too!!

[Cumberland]

excellent point Tracy- I wouldnt have thought that but it is a great thing!

Or make them want to have babies too!!

I agree with Luanne123, all of the sudden it's become trendy to have children, which is such a huge mistake if people aren't ready to take on that kind of responsibility.

Okay so I'm about to rant. Advance apology and warning...

I got married when I was 19 and my husband was 21 and not because I got "knocked up". In fact we didn't have sex until after marriage. We got married because we are/were in love and couldn't imagine life without the other. Five years later we are still happy and in love. We have to children and that only adds to our happiness. We know that something can be wonderful and hard at the same time and that is how our life is. There are two problems here...1) People don't understand or know that life is hard and good. 2) Girls are not taught to love themselves and lots of times don't have good strong male figures in their lives. So the love that they are looking for comes in the form of sex from some boy who really doesn't give a crap about them or they confuse love with lust...if they don't find what they are looking for there they get pregnant because then a baby will love them. They don't understand the responsibility and work and sacrifice that you need to be a good mother.

Okay, I'm done.

It's not age, it's maturity - for marriage, babies, everything! Britney was allowed to exploit herself (or was exploited) inappropriately from her very early teens, has been constantly told how wonderful she is, and indulged with everything anyone could ever possibly want. What would require her to mature? She's never had to worry about paying a bill, saving for something she wants, or WAITING for something she wants (see: relationship with man whose girlfriend is pregnant w/their 2nd child). She's never been told "no". While I'm not an avid Britney follower, I would bet she's never suffered a major loss, either, which will mature the heck out of you.

It is the rare case that a marriage of 19 / 21 year olds works, but if yours does - kudos to you! DH and I have friends who DID get married at 20 because they WERE "knocked up" and NONE of us (kind, considerate 20 year old friends that we were) thought they would make it. In fact, we bet against them amongst each other (literally). Guess what - we lost, they won! They've been married 11 years! I love it when it works, but it is a RARE 20 year old ready for marriage much less to raise a baby.

Best compliments to the previous poster for a successful marriage at such a young age.

[KCwife]

Don't know quite how to take the "knocked up", Guest. While I think that is wonderful that you abstained until marriage, I think that it is a tad bit immature to judge a situation that you admittedly know nothing about. +

So, here goes... I went to college at 16 (graduated HS early), met my husband...fell in love, yada yada yada, got pregnant at 17 (UNINTENTIONALLY, I might add), had Madalyn at 18. DH was 22. He proposed, I turned him down. He proposed again right after Madalyn was born, I turned him down again. - I felt that I needed to know that he was marrying ME, and I needed him to know that he did not have to marry me in order to be a part of his daughter’s life. When Madalyn was six months old we took her and went to San Francisco for the summer (remember we were still in college), and he proposed, I accepted, and we eloped the next day. That was eight years ago. Have there been bumpy times? Sure...but that comes with any relationship at any age. (Also, Most of the people that assumed that we wouldn't make it have been married AND divorced since then.)

So, is marriage early tough? HECK YES! Is being a Mom tough...at any age? YES! I think they are just probably very different perspectives. Such as at 18 you cannot possibly have the wisdom that you will at 30. But at 30 you cannot possible have the energy that you do at 18. I think that like anything, the maturity and history of the individual is what will determine the outcome in the end. Then again, kids do make you mature quite quickly. So, hopefully Ms. Spears will do fine.

So, now the question that I always get asked...
Do you feel like you missed out on your college years? No, I went to college at 16- I think a year and a half of binge drinking was plenty

Besides, when our youngest leaves for college at 18...I will only be 38! WOOO HOOO, that is young enough to back pack Europe, explore the Amazon, canoe the inside passageway, etc.... And hopefully my husband will be gainfully employed by then :>

Cheers,
Amber