Okay -- I'm curious what people will say to this topic.
I know a few families who seem to be "at their max" right now with regard to functioning...kids ....money....patience....etc. They are good people. I definitely like them very much.
Both of the women just announced that they were pregnant.
One of the women already asked me to help out during the later half of her pregnancy.
I have some conflicting emotions I'm a little surprised by.
#1 -- A baby is a blessing. All the kids in these families are good kids.
#2 -- I have no idea if either of these families have birth control issues that conflict with faith...etc.
#3 -- I am all for helping out, however it seems like a one way street at times because I have less children than either family so I help but they are overloaded so often I would never ask for help. (I realize that's partly MY issue. )
#4 -- If you are so overloaded with the family you do have -- is adding to the chaos the best course of action? (I'm trying to carefully choose my words here but nothing sounds exactly like I want it to....)
#5 -- What is a parent's responsibility to the children they do have with regard to care, time with family that is not chaotic, and adding siblings etc...
Just chewing on these issues personally.
To each his/her own -- until you can't handle "your own" and you need outside help as a rule....???
Like I said, it's a layered issue.
If I've said anything that TOTALLY pissed someone off, that wasn't my intention. I just wanted to dialogue about it so I could explore my seeminly conflicting emotions here...
I know a few families who seem to be "at their max" right now with regard to functioning...kids ....money....patience....etc. They are good people. I definitely like them very much.
Both of the women just announced that they were pregnant.
One of the women already asked me to help out during the later half of her pregnancy.
I have some conflicting emotions I'm a little surprised by.
#1 -- A baby is a blessing. All the kids in these families are good kids.
#2 -- I have no idea if either of these families have birth control issues that conflict with faith...etc.
#3 -- I am all for helping out, however it seems like a one way street at times because I have less children than either family so I help but they are overloaded so often I would never ask for help. (I realize that's partly MY issue. )
#4 -- If you are so overloaded with the family you do have -- is adding to the chaos the best course of action? (I'm trying to carefully choose my words here but nothing sounds exactly like I want it to....)
#5 -- What is a parent's responsibility to the children they do have with regard to care, time with family that is not chaotic, and adding siblings etc...
Just chewing on these issues personally.
To each his/her own -- until you can't handle "your own" and you need outside help as a rule....???
Like I said, it's a layered issue.
If I've said anything that TOTALLY pissed someone off, that wasn't my intention. I just wanted to dialogue about it so I could explore my seeminly conflicting emotions here...
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