Ohhhh your husband is a doctor. He is cute and smart. If you don't want him, I do

Curious as to other thoughts. Am I the only one who doesn't dig the new "attention" my DH gets for being a "doctor". I fell in love and married him before he went down this path....Now, DH is getting a kick out of going to a store with female attendants who giggle and flirt when they find out he is a doc. Also, he gets a kick out of his support personnel flirting with him. He tells me I don't need to worry but I still don't dig it when they see him much more than I do and actually have nicknames for him.

[SoonerTexan]

Not gonna lie--I've thought about this before, and I don't like the idea...I trust DF, though. I told him he is to make it really clear he is married, though

I don't know if he gets those comments, he tends to be totally oblivious and probably wouldn't realize it though. We were also together since the age of 18 - long before this fancy schmancy doctor title.

What I do not like is that his 'best friend' at work happens to be another doctor in his program who is a single female. Supposedly she does not have interest in the male gender, but who knows. I definitely get jealous that they spend so much time together.

[GrayMatterWife]

I don't know if girls flirt with DH at work. He's a really nice person, so I guess it's possible. I asked him once (I think prompted by a posting here, actually), and he looked at me like I was nuts, and said, "Uh, no. Nobody flirts with me. Would you like to?"

I think in DH's department, while it is completely cool (and kind of expected?) for the single docs to chase tail around the hospital (as long as it is not department tail), it is not cool for the married docs to look receptive to cheating. I think it's kind of considered "weak," like you lack control and use bad judgment--and NSG is all about control and good judgment.

I don't think he necessarily encourages it but I think he doesn't discourage it. I.e., at Holiday party this past X-Mas and I was 7 mo prego and didn't get into dancing at that point. I told him to go dance with the 50 year old director and all the sudden 5 21 year old e'ee's who are dressed like they should be at a club and NOT at a dept x-mas party were trying to dirty dance with him. I think he was a little shocked at 1st but then smiled and backed up and still danced to a general group and then when he saw me waddling over - he quickly left the dance floor.

[MrsK]

I have these pangs sometimes but as far as I can tell, DrK is pretty oblivious to it. When my brother was a resident, he used to complain about the silly nurses that giggled all the time. He didn't get it either.

[BonBon]

then when he saw me waddling over - he quickly left the dance floor.

That was a great visual.

DH used to get chased a lot, now that we have 4 kids 5 & under, nobody wants him. Too much baggage.

Sorry you have to deal with that. Why anyone would hit on a married man is beyond me. Your husband is getting a kick out of the flirting alright...when your foot meets his behind. Welcome, btw!

[GrayMatterWife]

I don't think he necessarily encourages it but I think he doesn't discourage it. I.e., at Holiday party this past X-Mas and I was 7 mo prego and didn't get into dancing at that point. I told him to go dance with the 50 year old director and all the sudden 5 21 year old e'ee's who are dressed like they should be at a club and NOT at a dept x-mas party were trying to dirty dance with him. I think he was a little shocked at 1st but then smiled and backed up and still danced to a general group and then when he saw me waddling over - he quickly left the dance floor.

This was at a holiday party for the department? Those women were acting very unprofessionally. After drinking, sometimes people forget that a holiday party for work remains...a work fuction. If that happened to my hubby, he would have left the dance floor--there's no way he would have wanted to have been seen with that, even if it wasn't his "fault." That's not funny or cute; it's just unprofessional. Good for your husband for not dancing with them individually.

That is just inappropriate. Really. Honestly, if some girl who worked for the department did that to DH at a department party, I would have found an appropriate, discreet, but clear way of making my displeasure known. Maybe an irritated glare in the presence of the chairman's wife, with the remark, "I'm sorry, who is that young girl? We haven't met." All the parties for our department are held at the chairman's estate. I know his wife and she would never put up with any guest's wife being shown that kind of disrespect.

Don't ever screw with the wives. Maybe we are boring and don't dress in low-cut blouses and get trashed at the parties, but we will destroy you if necessary. You aren't going to embarrass me or make my husband look bad because you're trampy.

[SuzySunshine]

Oh Abigail you should see how some of the really young nurses and scrub techs act at the department Christmas party here - I'm ALWAYS amazed, they have no tact.

Anyway, in regards to the original question...I've been told by more then one of the nurses that my DH works with that some of the younger ones think he'd be quite the catch. Luckily the older nurses that DH works with do a great job of watching out for the "naive" residents and putting a kabosh on the ones that try to go after the married residents, especially the ones with kids.

At the same time some of the nurses DH works with have made the comments several times that they'd never go after a resident in their department not because of the working together but because they see first hand how much they work and what kind of a life they have.

As for people outside of the profession we just laugh and move on - usually my response is that DH works at the hospital. In this town, which revolves around the hospital, that isn't usually enough to deflect the question however most people know that residents don't make crap so I don't worry about it so much.

AMEN SISTER! I SO AGREE and feel assured that my anger was not displaced. I told him the other night - this X-Mas Party I am not prego or tired or miserable therefore IF ANY OF THOSE HOOCHIES even cut their eyes at you - THEY WILL get a lecture about professionalism and appropriate behavior.

My office - that would not be accepted BUT as he says, I am a female and am in the role of an "attending" while as a resident he is still a paralegal so funny comments or "funny dancing" from "legal assistants" (his analogy for my office for me to understand) is not as much of a shocking act.

[Malpka]

DH used to get chased a lot, now that we have 4 kids 5 & under, nobody wants him. Too much baggage.

Same here. After the child support and alimony, he would be living in a van down by the river.

[Meenah]

I'm moving this to Grand Rounds since this is the Introduction Forum.

[scrub-jay]

Don't ever screw with the wives. Maybe we are boring and don't dress in low-cut blouses and get trashed at the parties, but we will destroy you if necessary. You aren't going to embarrass me or make my husband look bad because you're trampy.

And for that, you are forever my hero.

[Thirteen]

Don't ever screw with the wives. Maybe we are boring and don't dress in low-cut blouses and get trashed at the parties, but we will destroy you if necessary. You aren't going to embarrass me or make my husband look bad because you're trampy.

Abigail, you've once again made my evening. Hahaha!

[DCJenn]

My husband is cranky and tired, most of the time. If they can find him awake, not cranky not tired and in the mood, have at it ladies.

We've had love letters, inappropriate gifts, stalking. Honestly, there's not a damned thing I can do about it so eh, not something to get too worked up about. He's so clueless that he couldn't figure out that the gifts of body shampoos and chocolates 'might' have had more than one motive...

Jenn